While some people use water to describe women to metaphor the feminine nature of flexibility, tenderness, and mild, Eleanor Roosevelt would like to describe a woman as teabag because "we don’t know our true strength until we are in hot water". The woman is not that simple, but the simplest health tip ever is water.
When we say that a child is smart, what do we mean? It is simply that the child started to talk early, learned faster than others, or achieved the best grades among the peers? The human mind has the tendency to evaluate people and objects by their contrast and not by their substances. If you have experience in the stock market, you would well aware the meaning of this tendency. When the stock price rises from $10 to $30, you might probably regard $25 is a good buy. You are tempted to evaluate the price by the contrast and not by its value ($25 vs. $30). It is common when we compare ourselves to those who have more, we feel bad. When we compare ourselves to those who have less, we feel grateful.
Speed vs. Process. Not Everything is a Race
If it is a race, the point is to win. The focus is on the finish line. The fastest to reach the finish line is the winner. If so, we will miss out the beauty of the process and the meaning as derived from the process. Imagine you are walking a snail.
The snail is moving very slow and frustrate to catch you up in baby steps. You push it, blame it and yelling at it. And the snail stares at you in regret as if to tell you “I’ve already done my best!”
You continue to pull it and kick it.
The snail is hurt, sweating and choking.
And it is moving forward, slowly.
The time being together is so hard to each other.
Focus on the speed would miss out the beauty from the process. The kid moves slowly doesn’t mean he/she is stupid. It means you have to take more time and patience. Walking your child slowly to see things from his/her eyes is the most beautiful. It is because substances of life from the child’s eyes are direct and straight forward in purity.
Everyone Works In Their Own Time Zone
I had read message something like that which is impressive:
New York is 3 hrs ahead of California but it does not mean that California is slow, or that New York is fast.
Someone graduated at the age of 22, yet waited 5 years before finding a good job, while someone who graduated at 27 and secured employment immediately.
Someone became CEO at 25 and died at 50, while someone was a CEO at 50 and lived to 90.
Obama retired at age 55 while Trump won the presidential election at age 70.
We are moving forward in our time zone according to our own timetable.
When my kid is seem lagged behind the peers, I would tell him:
You have only one timetable – your timetable.
You have only one road – your road.
Genius or Just Average
Everyone does possess some special strengths and abilities and have been born with the capacity to be absolutely excellent at something, and maybe several things. Encourage the children to do things they are good at because we all need to feel competent. Let them take on responsibilities in areas in which they excel and ask for help when they are struggling.
Researchers at a university noticed that in departments where students had fewer required courses, they received higher grades in both their optional and their required classes. The students tended to take courses they were interested in and that they could do well in if they had more freedom to choose classes. Doing well in those optional classes actually improved their performance in all their classes because the positive habits that success created in the optional classes carried over into their required courses.
John and Peter are the kids chatting in the school:
John: Hey, Peter. I am exceptionally smart. My IQ score is over 200. If you give your candies to me, I will play with you.
Peter: Why should I give candies to you? You won’t give me your score and your smartness.
John: Alright, you are jealous of me. I give you 20% of my smartness to you.
Peter: 20% is so few. I’ve no interest.
John: I give you 50%
Peter: 50% mean we are equal, why I have to jealous you
John: I give you 80%
Peter: I get your 80% mean I become smarter than you. Are you sure your score is over 200?! I don’t think you are smart!
The bathroom is where you get yourself ready to face the world. It is an important space in the home delivering more functions than merely cleaning the body, isn’t it? It is a creative space for your "me time" to be left alone soaking in the bath with the door locked.
1. Cleaning, Purging, and Refreshing
What better way to start your day by a cold bath to awaken your mind providing extra support in the early morning and end your day by having a simple warm water bath relaxing your body with essential oil and candlelit? After a relaxing bath, bye-bye stress, finally. Use the essential oil such as cardamom, mandarin, neroli, orange, or sandalwood can release the stress from the busy working day. Massage your abdomen in a clockwise direction using a few drops of peppermint essential oil combined with almond carrier oil do well to release tummy pain from poor eating.
Fancy Combination: super soft towel, essential oil, candlelit
2. Me-Time to be Left Alone
Sometimes you may want to get back the pre-baby luxury that most moms miss out: the alone time to get away from the kids. In this just for me time, how about enjoying a cup of tea, flipping the Vogue magazine to explore what’s up for the interesting people who are living in the other horizon of the same planet, the beauty of the expensive dresses and the skinny sad models.
I feel like the bathroom is a big closet where we want to lock ourselves inside for the longest stretch of time to make up our beauty secrets such as try our various lipstick colors. For a woman, bright red, dark red, rosy red, coral red are the different color!
Fancy combination: magazine, tea, cosmetics
3. Well Spend Time with the Child
Children love water play. The infant is having so much fun playing in the bath tub as if he is playing in the swimming pool. Daddy and son can bath together and play together in the big bath tub and build the intimate father-and-son relationship at the same time. I like to arrange some playful touches along the narrow ledge next to the window such as starfish and ceramic toys to transform the bathroom into a funny place for the family.
Fancy combination: big bath tub, playful touches of small toys
4. Bring the Floral to the Bathroom
Ferns and other damp-loving plants are ideal for the bathroom. Eucalyptus is easy to dry and smells wonderful. You will feel great to bring the floral in the bathroom enriching the environment with natural green essence.
Fancy combination: Floral and the window
(the floral photos via Moon to Moon, Ms Prints)
Why do children lie? The children tell lies because they want to escape the blame, or try to avoid the consequences, or confuse the reality with the imagination, or the parents are overreacting when the child is doing something wrong. The following storytelling activity can apply to a child over the age of 3 years old aim at helping the child to distinguish between imagination and reality.
(credit via Heike Baum)
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Comfort food means easy to cook, simple recipes, delicious, and feel full with satisfaction. Carbonara is one of my favorite Italian cuisines. Italian style of "dining" is more than merely eating. It means to enjoy the time spending with the family, savor each course of the food, and to relax after a busy day. The essence of Italian cooking is simplicity, uses the freshest seasonal ingredients, and the cooking techniques are to enhance the natural flavor of the food.
The Cooking Steps:
Type of Herbs
Special Version of Carbonara for the Children
What are the evangelist and the weird side of a child?
1. The child can’t be bored. Every minute is playtime.
2. What is the difference between boy and girl?
3. Fearless to approach a stranger and talking about something deep!
4. My heart melts when the kid tells he loves me but when I find out…
5. The kid has the strategy to get what he wants.
6. What a tough conversation?
Do you feel overwhelmed at the chores need to be done on a regular basis? Cleaning the kitchen and the bathroom, and then the living room needs to be vacuumed, and get lost in wondering what's next of the ten other things require to do for tidying up the home. The job of tidy up is simple but not easy. It is not a rocket science but is good enough for Ms. Marie Kondo wrote a 224 pages book winning millions of readers in the world. We all have a lazy pig inside our heart. You are either fighting against it or controlled by it. Did you get any of the following symptoms?
Are you always late for an appointment?
Or there are always forgetting items when leaving home
Panic to find some important stuff at the time when you need it desperately
Deteriorate food still being kept in the fridge
Tons of clutter stuff collapsed on you when you open the wardrobe
The home had stored tons of unused forgotten things while you keep buying new stuff……
How to decluttering and organizing your home and your life?
1. Develop A Household Routine
Develop a routine to do the work to run as a system without requiring make the decision every day. When we approach tasks with the order, we finish what we start. Otherwise, we tend to start one job, get distracted by something else, then look around and feel like haven’t accomplished anything. You will have more time to get the work done if you can get up earlier. You stay in bed for few more minutes can't reduce your painful feeling to get up. Tell yourself get up anyway with no exception.
2. Organize the Storage
Some people regard tidiness is living with less, they are minimalists. For some other people, it means properly organizing the stuff to keep the home looks clean without require throwing away many things.
Step #1. Throw things away
I am a minimalist prefers not to keep much stuff at home. Why don't people want to throw things away? Ms. Hideko Yamashita is a reputable "de-cluttering" expert to bring out the idea that people are unwilling to throw away existing clutter in their living space because:
Two ways to identify what are the things you want to keep instead of throwing away:
Step #2. Arrange the Visible and Invisible Storage
Storage of stuff can be visible or invisible (visible display and invisible inside the closet). You may prefer your home is absolute tidy by storing everything inside the closets. But this will look dull and boring. Conversely, if there are too many stuff store in the openly visible space, this will look messy and uncomfortable. Balance the visible and invisible storage is important.
a) Don't fully occupy the space. Not everything needs to be optimized
(source via Hideko Yamashita)
b) Make the balance between visible and invisible storage
I prefer the ratio of 5:5 or 4:6 (visible vs. invisible) to attain the balance feel. The closet is around the height of 700mm and put the stuff as visible storage on the top of the closet.
Step #3. Organize the clothing
Sort the clothing into hanging and folding items:
a) Sort for the hanging items
Hanging items are jackets or clothing that could get frown easily.
The arrangement can be...
Left side dark color, right side light color
Left side heavy, right side light weight
Left side long sleeve, right side short sleeve
b) Folding the items in small shape for easy finding
Ms. Marie Kondo suggested folding the clothes in a square shape and put them in vertical. When you open the drawer, you can find the items easily.
Step #4: Control the excessive buying
Don’t trap into the big discount or pursuit of trendy fashion by buying excessive clothing, bags, gadgets, and no used stuff. I don't mean stop buying anything. Suitable furniture or stuff help to bring good feeling and contribute to the well spend time. For instance, we buy the dishes washer can spare the time for spending the enjoyable time with the family rather than washing dishes.
3. Technology Can Help You but Sometimes Not
4. Manage The Drudgery
There would be some non-proficient and non-passionate jobs which you regard as drudgery. Piling them up and deferring the job is not a good idea. You have to do it anyway and leave the works pending just increase the burden. I would like to mark the drudgery on the calendar to make it an appointment with myself. I commit my work on the pre-set schedule to get the work done.
Have you ever heard about “one-minute principle”? It means people do something for a single minute, every day at the same time. You feel the joy and satisfaction from the achievement of that single small task. You are feeling good and you will gradually to increase the amount of time you spend doing the task which you have set yourself. You can't do everything today but you can do something every day.
How to upset a mom in less than 5 seconds? It's when someone tries to tell you how to raise your child. Well, yes, it is oversimplified to explain the child's misconduct is either the result of the parental problem or wholly caused by the child genre. Some children have resistant behavior like my 5-year old boy. He doesn't care about anything I tell him to do. For instances, when I try to force a macrobiotic diet on him, he sees no reason why he has to give up his innocent comforting desire to eat candies. Children like playing games. I had read the "points system" game from a book and tried to play this game with him. The result is encouraging.
The game applied to the kid age between 4 to 7 years old. Every positive performance of the kid will give a token to record the points. The child redeems the gift as a reward according to the number of tokens had been collected.
5. Make a list with the child together for the "things-to-do" items such as
6. Define each item from the "things-to-do" list is carrying how many points. The child obtains more points for the difficult task and fewer points for the easy task.
7. The score tokens would put into that storage box.
8. Allow the child to redeem the rewards in the weekly base or monthly base.
Don't leave without takeaway the free e-book for finding more games to play with the child.
The closer we get to animals, the more joy they give us. Do you think that those with a loved pet are more likely to feel satisfied than those without a pet? When my kid urges me to buy her a furry friend, I think it’s not a bad idea. My hubby prefers the furry friend should be a cat because....
1. Cat and woman are alike.
(via Smetana TV)
2. Cat provides the source of creativity for writing a book
3. It would easily get caught when it did misbehave.
4. You would never forget to feed it food to eat because the cat is good at reminding you its existence because..
A cat favorable to nap is on whatever you are reading, isn't it?
5. Sometimes, the cat seems to look so familiar.
(picture via the web)
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