“In school, you’re taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you’re given a test that teaches you a lesson” ~ Tom Bodett
We love certainty. Traditional schooling tries to tell the world is moving in the way of certainty, isn’t it? Who’s teaching the child what to do if the certain thing doesn’t happen?
1. Certainty vs. Curiosity
Traditional school is about certainty.
You’re certain the teachers will teach the kids. You’re certain the classes in tomorrow. You’re certain the subject contents in the syllabus. And there will certainly be a test. And if the kid passes the test, she will certainly move to the next upper grade If she obtains good grades in examinations, she’ll certainly enter a good university If you do well in university, she’ll certainly find a well paid job. If she works hard enough and follow what people tell her to do, people will certainly reward her.
Children need to be raised in a way that allows their mind is robust and resilient enough to survive in a world which is too loud, too cruel, too uncertain and too fast to bear.
2. Safety vs. Adventure
The flip of certainty is curiosity and adventure. Children are curious creatures. Overprotective parents try to build the boundaries blocking the children imagination do them no good at all.
When Michelle raised her first child, she used to think that anything could go wrong would go wrong. She would do everything to keep her child safe, perhaps too safe.
Kept the child away from dirt and mud Played in the street was dangerous Played outside was dangerous Supervised play Went out after school was dangerous Not allowed the child went off on his own unsupervised Swoop in too fast when the child got into trouble
The outcome is that the child was
Unable to feed himself properly without others help
Crying and fussing to call mom when get into trouble
Looking fearful and hiding when met with strangers.
When she raised her second child, she managed to do something different. She allowed the infant to have more freedom to play and learn. The outcome is that the kid was more capable of solving problems with confidence.
He could peel an egg at 1 year old Willing to talk with strangers Can settle problem independently when get into trouble with other kids.
3. Traveling vs. Reading
Traveling is a great way to learn the meaning of adventure, inclusiveness and big heart.
Only those who risk going too far can possibly find out how far they can go (T.S Elliot).
Summer vacation had become a routine for most families. It’s not about posting great travel photos on facebook. It’s about freedom, about seeking adventure with our curious mind.
Let’s allow your kid to responsible for the vacation including to decide the schedule, destination, airline, accommodation, do the research, plan the itinerary and estimate budget. Let’s them learn the failure when they are trying to solve interesting problems and build up confidence.
A man who is traveling thousand miles learn more than the one reading thousands of books. On the other hands, a man who is traveling a thousand miles without learning, he is just a postman.
Seeing, learning, discovery, exploring from the adventure is a treasure.
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