I can't wait to get ready for the summer trip. Happiness is traveling to somewhere new, trying something different. No matter it is an RV camping or long haul trip to the foreign country, it provides the amazing experience to bond the family relation and stimulating the children visual spatial intelligent. What better way to raise resilient kids by triggering the children curiosity from shaking them out of our routine to smelling, seeing, and touching the beauty of nature. No surprise when the child comes to ask you:
What is the one thing you most want to do outdoor with your kids?
"I want to ride the bike with the kid. Nothing compares to this simple pleasure feeling the wind on our cheeks and use up a lot of our fuel" ~ Nicholas, a dad.
Head out for a day of cycling on a scenic route is fantastic. Find the campground with bike-specific mountain trails or recreational bike paths. Stick to the quiet roads, stop every hour to let the kid get out and play and explore, keep the cycling speed slow, it is not a race, after all. Nothing beats boredom like a camera in kid’s hands.
Give them a camera is fine but make sure the kid has a pen and paper to write down his/her exploration and feeling. The kid might re-visit the same place in some other year, even if the scenery is unchanged, the feeling is not the same. Write now, read later, treasure forever.
"I’m perfectly happy to take the kid fishing. I model calm and patience of the catch. Just the two of us together, share stories with each other. My son would remember his best day of holding fish in a picture, and the bucket full of great memories" ~ Tom, a dad.
Fishing is the most relaxing of all the camping activities. Grab the poles and head out with the kid to catch the fish, put away all the electronic devices and just take in the scenery and fresh air. Some kids get bored easily from fishing as he may spend hours to wait for the catch. It's a great way to let the kid understands to keep trying until he reaches the success from perseverance and determination.
3. Tree house
"When we’re in a tree house, it brought me back to when I was 12 years old. The kids were imagining they were in a Western somewhere looking for once of a life time experience" ~ Jack, a dad.
The kids have so much fun if the campground has the tree houses. The children would get excited about the tangle of green limbs swaddled the tree house like a living hammock. What an escapist fantasy embrace with the emotions for adventure seeking and proximity to the wild of nature, hopefully, the creepy crawlers such as spiders and stick bugs would not scare you. The kids may feel climbing the ladder fifty times a day is funny, but the rope ladders and climbing ropes are where most of the falls occur. The hurt would be fatal if a child jumps and falls, and end up string up off the ground.
4. Play Silly Games
"Go out and play the silly games with the kid. It’s what the kid always wanted to do" ~ Jenny, a mom.
Play the silly games such as seeing who can throw a leaf the farthest make the little kids giggle for hours. You might like to play other simple games such as the nature scavenger hunt, glowing ring toss, park ranger, shadowing, camping bingo and so on. I like to play the kind of games that require no toys or any complicated supplies.
Are the games too simple for the big kids? Try the level up version of nature scavenger hunt. Assign a series of tasks such as catch a fish, skip a rock, hike to the top of a hill, see a squirrel, hear a birdsong, and cross a creek bed without getting wet feet. You would never short of the idea of playing games with the kids.
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I believe I can fly. I believe I can touch the sky......(R. Kelly song).
Touch the sky is beautiful. How about touch the clouds in the early morning? Cloud eggs toasts are great to make your day brighten up.
Ingredients: Fresh eggs and bread
(recipe source from Daily Mail)
Health Benefits and tips:
1. Treehotel, Harads, Sweden
Treehouse is the paradise for kids. Stay in the tree hotel near the small village of Harads in the north of Sweden is never short of amazing. The remote tree hotel dwelling brings you back to your childhood fantasy of the "Swiss Family Robinson" fairy tale. The shelter of the hotel is made of the aluminum structure with the mirrored glass to reflect the surrounding and the sky. The children would get excited about the tangle of green limbs swaddled the tree house like a living hammock. By and large, you would feel like the life has slowed down and allowed you to sit back relighting the spirit of the child within. In fact, it is an adult escapist fantasy embrace with the emotions for adventure seeking, nostalgia, and proximity to the wild of nature.
2. Robot hotel, Nagasaki, Japan
Henn-na Hotel in Nagasaki is the world's first hotel operated with staffed entirely by robots. It advocates the “ultimate of efficiency” assortment of innovation in a weird sense. The guests check in with the help of a vicious-looking dinosaur robot. If you don’t like talking with the scary dinosaur, that robot lady with blinking lashes probably can serve you better.
What is scarier than the dinosaur robot is that when our children grow up, they would have a hard time to compete with the much more sophisticated machines. The robots work harder than us, definitely can work longer hours than us, and accept lower pay than us. The jobs of the future will be what robots can’t do such as something related to creativity, imagination, leadership, analysis, telling the joke, writing a book, doing science...
3. Floating Hotel, Japan
Japanese theme park Huis Ten Bosch will launch the weird floating hotel pods by the end of 2017. They are the capsule hotel room floating across the sea overnight. The concept is interesting. It is awesome to gaze up at the stars through its glass ceiling at night. But I somewhat dislike the feeling of drifting and floating. We like sailing more than drifting, aren't we? We are the captain of the parenting ship steering to the wonderland of happiness for our children. We don't want to be like Alice:
Alice: Would you tell me which way I ought to go from here?
The Cheshire cat: That depends a good deal on where you want to get to.
Alice: I don’t much care where.
The Cheshire cat: then it doesn’t much matter which way you go.
(Quote from Alice in Wonderland)
4. The Dog Bark Park Inn, Idaho, USA
The closer we get to animals, the more joy they give us. What if I tell you to experience the joy of cherishing animal from staying inside a 30 feet tall beagle? His name is Sweet Willy, at 30 feet tall, is the biggest beagle in the world. The Dog Bark Hotel is a beagle shape building in Idaho with beds and breakfast accommodation which is great for the kids on vacation.
5. The Hobbit Motel, Woodlyn Park, Waitomo, New Zealand
It would be great to explore the charm of fantasy from the tale of hobbits, wizards, dwarves, and dragons in the Hobbit Hotel. The Hobbit Hotel located in Waitomo surround with the magnificent landscapes of rolling green pastures in New Zealand. The interior design of the room is surprisingly modern and comfortable for up to six people accommodation. The outside appearance of the hotel looks like embedded with the underground for hobbits come straight from Tolkien’s Middle-earth! The structure was using polystyrene for keeping the room cool in the summer and warm in the winter.
6. ION Luxury Adventure Hotel, Nesjavellir, Iceland
View the aurora is one of the must-do items in the bucket list, isn’t it? ION Adventure Hotel is a great spot from where to view over the Icelandic lava field and the Northern Lights. The location of the hotel is near the Thingvellir National Park, close to the “Golden Circle” route. Viewing the aurora is conditional. Some people stayed for weeks in Iceland but may not lucky enough to see this natural beauty in real.
7. Giraffe Manor, Nairobi, Kenya
What would be an unusual safari experience in the Nairobi with the giraffe appear at the upstairs window when you are eating breakfast? Giraffe Manor is small hotel located in the suburb of Nairobi, Kenya. The design of the hotel is colonial feel look like the Scottish hunting lodge. It is awesome to take a break from the daily routine by stepping away from the hectic life to enjoy the beautiful smell of nature telling your mind that everything is ok.
The world is evolving at the speed of light. We survive in this world that is too loud, too bright, too fast, and too cruel to bear the fear of missing out. Very often, the pursuit of speed become the mantra to live our time. We are busy and prioritized our time to tackle the urgency for meeting the deadlines set by someone else. Pressure comes from all sides of deadlines such as you have a bus to catch, an interview to attend, a movie to catch, or an assignment to hand in. We are so much hard wired fearing to the painful feeling of missing out. In fact, a deadline is not equated to exit. Missing out the deadline will not cause the death. When we concentrate on speed, the process along the way is becoming murky. We would miss out the clarity of the important things matter most to us. Conversely, slow living is the lazy way to drive you faster when you can see clearly:
Who are the ones need you most?
What kind of person do you want to be?
What is the difference you seek to make?
Slow living is a strategy to live a happy life.
Eat to Live
Health issues during women reproductive years are intrigued with the physical and emotional commitments in the family. We are what we eat. Sit down and take time for the meal. Mindful eating instead of going for the first food we see out of convenience and desperation. Eat slowly and chew the food slowly, it is not a race after all. Our body is not a machine. The components are expensive. If the component gets deteriorated, money can't buy a new one.
Live to Love
House is not a home. We are women good at turning the house into a home. I couldn't agree more that the home is a creative space to make a statement of individuality for full expression of who you are. Spend the time on creating the supportive home environment welcoming to family and friends. Home is where the kids learn how to love and care. Wisdom begins at home, isn't it?
Love to Growth
Take the time to spend the enjoyable moments with our children. The child-parent interaction has the critical impact on the child development and shaping his/her personality and worldview. Parenting journey is always rough around the edges. There is no ideal key or right answer that can unlock the future. When I was a child, my mom tried to do everything right to path the way for making my life happy. She was not so much successful, indeed. When the conventional wisdom is shaping our worldview, the opposite side can help us to learn more. Unconventionality isn’t a goal in itself, but it means looking at the world through an inquisitive lens as we did when we were a child. It takes time and a lot of effort.
Slow down a while to adjust the focus seeking the life you want to live.
While some people use water to describe women to metaphor the feminine nature of flexibility, tenderness, and mild, Eleanor Roosevelt would like to describe a woman as teabag because "we don’t know our true strength until we are in hot water". The woman is not that simple, but the simplest health tip ever is water.
When we say that a child is smart, what do we mean? It is simply that the child started to talk early, learned faster than others, or achieved the best grades among the peers? The human mind has the tendency to evaluate people and objects by their contrast and not by their substances. If you have experience in the stock market, you would well aware the meaning of this tendency. When the stock price rises from $10 to $30, you might probably regard $25 is a good buy. You are tempted to evaluate the price by the contrast and not by its value ($25 vs. $30). It is common when we compare ourselves to those who have more, we feel bad. When we compare ourselves to those who have less, we feel grateful.
Speed vs. Process. Not Everything is a Race
If it is a race, the point is to win. The focus is on the finish line. The fastest to reach the finish line is the winner. If so, we will miss out the beauty of the process and the meaning as derived from the process. Imagine you are walking a snail.
The snail is moving very slow and frustrate to catch you up in baby steps. You push it, blame it and yelling at it. And the snail stares at you in regret as if to tell you “I’ve already done my best!”
You continue to pull it and kick it.
The snail is hurt, sweating and choking.
And it is moving forward, slowly.
The time being together is so hard to each other.
Focus on the speed would miss out the beauty from the process. The kid moves slowly doesn’t mean he/she is stupid. It means you have to take more time and patience. Walking your child slowly to see things from his/her eyes is the most beautiful. It is because substances of life from the child’s eyes are direct and straight forward in purity.
Everyone Works In Their Own Time Zone
I had read message something like that which is impressive:
New York is 3 hrs ahead of California but it does not mean that California is slow, or that New York is fast.
Someone graduated at the age of 22, yet waited 5 years before finding a good job, while someone who graduated at 27 and secured employment immediately.
Someone became CEO at 25 and died at 50, while someone was a CEO at 50 and lived to 90.
Obama retired at age 55 while Trump won the presidential election at age 70.
We are moving forward in our time zone according to our own timetable.
When my kid is seem lagged behind the peers, I would tell him:
You have only one timetable – your timetable.
You have only one road – your road.
Genius or Just Average
Everyone does possess some special strengths and abilities and have been born with the capacity to be absolutely excellent at something, and maybe several things. Encourage the children to do things they are good at because we all need to feel competent. Let them take on responsibilities in areas in which they excel and ask for help when they are struggling.
Researchers at a university noticed that in departments where students had fewer required courses, they received higher grades in both their optional and their required classes. The students tended to take courses they were interested in and that they could do well in if they had more freedom to choose classes. Doing well in those optional classes actually improved their performance in all their classes because the positive habits that success created in the optional classes carried over into their required courses.
John and Peter are the kids chatting in the school:
John: Hey, Peter. I am exceptionally smart. My IQ score is over 200. If you give your candies to me, I will play with you.
Peter: Why should I give candies to you? You won’t give me your score and your smartness.
John: Alright, you are jealous of me. I give you 20% of my smartness to you.
Peter: 20% is so few. I’ve no interest.
John: I give you 50%
Peter: 50% mean we are equal, why I have to jealous you
John: I give you 80%
Peter: I get your 80% mean I become smarter than you. Are you sure your score is over 200?! I don’t think you are smart!
Why do children lie? The children tell lies because they want to escape the blame, or try to avoid the consequences, or confuse the reality with the imagination, or the parents are overreacting when the child is doing something wrong. The following storytelling activity can apply to a child over the age of 3 years old aim at helping the child to distinguish between imagination and reality.
(credit via Heike Baum)
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What are the evangelist and the weird side of a child?
1. The child can’t be bored. Every minute is playtime.
2. What is the difference between boy and girl?
3. Fearless to approach a stranger and talking about something deep!
4. My heart melts when the kid tells he loves me but when I find out…
5. The kid has the strategy to get what he wants.
6. What a tough conversation?
Do you feel overwhelmed at the chores need to be done on a regular basis? Cleaning the kitchen and the bathroom, and then the living room needs to be vacuumed, and get lost in wondering what's next of the ten other things require to do for tidying up the home. The job of tidy up is simple but not easy. It is not a rocket science but is good enough for Ms. Marie Kondo wrote a 224 pages book winning millions of readers in the world. We all have a lazy pig inside our heart. You are either fighting against it or controlled by it. Did you get any of the following symptoms?
Are you always late for an appointment?
Or there are always forgetting items when leaving home
Panic to find some important stuff at the time when you need it desperately
Deteriorate food still being kept in the fridge
Tons of clutter stuff collapsed on you when you open the wardrobe
The home had stored tons of unused forgotten things while you keep buying new stuff……
How to decluttering and organizing your home and your life?
1. Develop A Household Routine
Develop a routine to do the work to run as a system without requiring make the decision every day. When we approach tasks with the order, we finish what we start. Otherwise, we tend to start one job, get distracted by something else, then look around and feel like haven’t accomplished anything. You will have more time to get the work done if you can get up earlier. You stay in bed for few more minutes can't reduce your painful feeling to get up. Tell yourself get up anyway with no exception.
2. Organize the Storage
Some people regard tidiness is living with less, they are minimalists. For some other people, it means properly organizing the stuff to keep the home looks clean without require throwing away many things.
Step #1. Throw things away
I am a minimalist prefers not to keep much stuff at home. Why don't people want to throw things away? Ms. Hideko Yamashita is a reputable "de-cluttering" expert to bring out the idea that people are unwilling to throw away existing clutter in their living space because:
Two ways to identify what are the things you want to keep instead of throwing away:
Step #2. Arrange the Visible and Invisible Storage
Storage of stuff can be visible or invisible (visible display and invisible inside the closet). You may prefer your home is absolute tidy by storing everything inside the closets. But this will look dull and boring. Conversely, if there are too many stuff store in the openly visible space, this will look messy and uncomfortable. Balance the visible and invisible storage is important.
a) Don't fully occupy the space. Not everything needs to be optimized
(source via Hideko Yamashita)
b) Make the balance between visible and invisible storage
I prefer the ratio of 5:5 or 4:6 (visible vs. invisible) to attain the balance feel. The closet is around the height of 700mm and put the stuff as visible storage on the top of the closet.
Step #3. Organize the clothing
Sort the clothing into hanging and folding items:
a) Sort for the hanging items
Hanging items are jackets or clothing that could get frown easily.
The arrangement can be...
Left side dark color, right side light color
Left side heavy, right side light weight
Left side long sleeve, right side short sleeve
b) Folding the items in small shape for easy finding
Ms. Marie Kondo suggested folding the clothes in a square shape and put them in vertical. When you open the drawer, you can find the items easily.
Step #4: Control the excessive buying
Don’t trap into the big discount or pursuit of trendy fashion by buying excessive clothing, bags, gadgets, and no used stuff. I don't mean stop buying anything. Suitable furniture or stuff help to bring good feeling and contribute to the well spend time. For instance, we buy the dishes washer can spare the time for spending the enjoyable time with the family rather than washing dishes.
3. Technology Can Help You but Sometimes Not
4. Manage The Drudgery
There would be some non-proficient and non-passionate jobs which you regard as drudgery. Piling them up and deferring the job is not a good idea. You have to do it anyway and leave the works pending just increase the burden. I would like to mark the drudgery on the calendar to make it an appointment with myself. I commit my work on the pre-set schedule to get the work done.
Have you ever heard about “one-minute principle”? It means people do something for a single minute, every day at the same time. You feel the joy and satisfaction from the achievement of that single small task. You are feeling good and you will gradually to increase the amount of time you spend doing the task which you have set yourself. You can't do everything today but you can do something every day.
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