Parents are so critical to developing the blueprint for shaping the character of the child especially during his/her age between 0-6 years old. How did my mom praise me? How did my mom blame me? Did my parent love me? Did they accept me? I prefer dad over mom? Did I get a better relationship with mom or with dad? I and mom alike or I am alike with dad? The well-meaning parents are trying to do all the right things to raise their children for the desired outcome. When you want the child can embrace the attributes of confidence, intelligent, and kindness, why he turns out to be coward and mediocre?
1. Fear of You
Does your child anti-parent? Or over-obedience? Does your child do thing upon your command? You as a parent is performing an authority role, aren't you? You know your child will not challenge you. Ever wonder the child lies to you because you are over-reacting to his mistake? The child gets used to following the authority order. The narrative is that if I follow my mom order, to do what she tells me to do, cope with her expectation, stand by her side, then she will love me, or at least get out of trouble. You drive your kid to the tendency of believing authority. For them, comply is more important than asking questions. What if I fail? What would my parent think?
it is my turn or I wait for someone pick me?
use my own judgment or I do what other people say?
show my work or because someone say so?
2. Fear Of Unknown
The schooling system tries to train the kids for the sake of remembering all the answers, not finding the reasons behind. All they need to do is memorizing the answers, do the tests, take the exams, get the marks, moved on to the upper grade in certainty. The school tries to tell you to learn and then test. The world is operated in the reverse way, test and then learn. When the kids get used to certainty, they are the security seeker. They will lose a lot of fun to explore the world and explore themselves.
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3. Fear Of Comparing
The schooling system makes the children believe that the world is operated by ranking, zero-sum game and compete over the others. As a parent, have you ever try to compare your kids with other children or compare the kids to their siblings? Some parents would show bias favoring one child over another. I know a girl who hates her younger sister severely because she thinks her mom loves her sister a lot more. She regards her self-value is whether she can do better than her sister. Comparing is hazardous to the personal development for the tendency to judge the value merely by compare and contrast. And the child tends to...
4. Fear Of Making Mistakes
You shouldn’t be so quick to jump in to protect the child as if you are trying to solve all their problems. Ever wonder you make your child coward because you overprotect him. Or conversely, you blame the child in public when they do something wrong. You bring the message to the kid something like being careful, safety first, don’t trust the stranger, don’t take the risk. The kid tends to focus on avoid pain rather than think about the possible gains. Quit before try. In fact, success and failure are on the same path.
5. Fear Of Neglect
The child needs to feel competent. He needs to feel he is important. You may be stressful under financial hardship or even worse, divorce with a child. Have you ever brought along the negative emotion to tell the child that he is the burden? It is as if all the bad luck, hardship, and disappointment is the child false. All his life he lives in the sense of self-denial and low self-esteem. Pleasing the parent is all he wants to do at the expense of sacrificing his self-interest. He feels lonely and rarely asks for help even in the difficult situation he can handle.
6. Fear Of Negative Words
7. Fear Of No Money
When I was a child, I understood my parents were hinged on one element to affect their happiness. That element was money. Is money a good thing? Or is it a bad thing? What the child sees is “give” and unaware “take” has the equal importance. Negative self-talk comes in to tell we are very poor, my worthiness is the ability to earn money for the family. Some children might take-over the role of parent to take care the siblings for the sake of finding their self-importance. All his/her life is living to work for the others to win the acceptance. He/She will neglect his/her self-needs and accept the unacceptable.
How do you know your intestines are clean? Believe it or not, try this simple testing: Cut a dragon fruit (pitaya) in half and eat the flesh. You can see the black sesame-like pitaya seeds in your poo. The test is to check the pitaya takes how long to get into the bowel and then get out from the body. Half day is perfect. One day is normal. It can't be a good sign if your intestines take 3 days or more to get rid the pitaya seeds from the body. You shouldn’t overlook the long-term effects if your bowel keeps stuck up. Your body is screaming out to you through the signs of fatigue, rough skin, overweight, or bloating if you culminate the toxic from the poor eating. Eat fruits make you feel good about yourself. I like to eat fruits as snacks as it's easy, it's cheap and no need preparation time. Not everyone eats the fruits in a right way. How about you?
How to eat the fruits in a right way?
1. Eat Fresh
Fruits are meant to taste best at their ripening stage. It changes the flavor from sharp taste to become sweeter when it ripens. When we say eating the fresh fruits, we mean the ripened ones.
Avoid eating the contaminated fruits from the residue of pesticides. Pesticides are not merely "attached" to the fruit surface, it had absorbed into the core which is hard to remove by rinsing or soak in the water. Eat the organic fruits is pretty much a good choice.
3. Eating Order
Eat the fruits before the meal or half hour between meals. You are not suggested to eat the fruits immediately after the meal. Why? Your main dish usually has the meat which is the slower digest food. What would happen if the slower digest food gets in the way of the faster digest food? Such improper eating order would cause the fermentation which leads to bloating.
nice to eat the fruits but avoid the fatty fruit such as avocado
It is the best digestion time for your body. Eating full is ok.
Eat less at night.
4. Eating Seasonally
There’s nothing like fresh fruit at their seasonal best. Seasonal fruits taste better and carry better nutrient value as well. Will you eat watermelon in winter? Eating watermelon in winter make you feel cold and uncomfortable. Conversely, the juicy melon helps you stay hydrated and release the hot feeling during the summer time. It's easy to find which are the seasonal fruits. Pick the fruits that are widely available in the food stores and have a better deal are seasonal.
5. Local Fruits
Would you prefer exotic fruits or local fruits? Local fruits are more appealing to me. I would like to pick the fruits that are growing in the farmland nearest to my living place. Beware of the exotic fruits that look so beautiful but carried the residue of the pesticides on the imported lemons, bananas, cherries, kiwi, peaches, and apples. OK, ok, local fruits has pesticides also.
6. Match With Your Body Nature
According to the Chinese medical science, the foundation of everything in the universe including our body nature can categorize into five types (wood, gold, water, earth, and fire). Eating the appropriate food to cope with your type of body nature can optimize the benefit to your health. How do you know your body nature belong to which type? Let's explain in another separate post.
7. Original shape
Eat the fruit in its original shape preserves its optimal energy and nutrients counts. Whenever we try to blending, boiling, or drying the fruits would discount its nutrient value.
8. Food combining
9. Positive energy
I love to eat the fruits carry with positive energy. Positive energy fruits are grown by happy farmers, pleasant workers, organic farmland, or fair trade business and so on.
10. Don’t eat too much
Avoid eating too much. Just enough is fine. Too much is no difference with too little.
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