Ever wonder why the child regard sharing is a negative thing. When I told my child to share his toys or his candies to the others, he would say:
“Why you always ask me to share my thing with the other, you don’t love me anymore?”
“I don’t have that much, if I share it with him, I won’t have any left”
“Why I have to share? I play the toy first, lets him play later after I don’t want to play.”
1. Share means Loss?
The traditional schooling tries to tell the children that the world operates by finite resources in scarcity. They are playing the zero-sum game. From the children point of view, share means loss. They adopted the scarcity model of pizza. I won’t have any left if I share it with you.
Share doesn’t mean lost. It’s more useful to think if I share with you, we will both have it. Or change the child perspective, sharing with others doesn't mean lost, it means to take turns to play it.
The conversation can be like this…
Mom: Mommy understands your feeling. You had played this toy already. The other children haven’t played this toy yet. Let’s the other child play it, and you wait for your turn again
Mom: This toy is played by whom moment before?
Mom: You played the toy just before. Let's another child to play it. You wait for a while, and then you take your turn later.
2. More necessarily mean better?
No surprise the first question from a child when someone gives him something, and then he would say I can get only one? Or can I get another one?
More necessary mean better? I observe the children get the behavior that when they desperately want a specific toy, their whole world revolves around getting this one toy, or otherwise they would feel like they lost their universe. Once their parents buy that toy for them, their joy fades out. They want something else. If they can’t appreciate what they have, more is not a good thing and won’t make them happier. It’s more useful to let the child appreciates what he owns at present and what he may own in the future. They can have nice things and not fear someone would take away from them.
You can talk with your child something like this:
“You play this toy for a long time already, why not exchange the toy with John? You see, his toy can speak.”
“You haven’t played this one before! His toy seems very interesting. Exchange your toy with John. You and John will both have the fun.”
3. Learn the gratitude
Why did some children find it difficult to show gratitude towards the other people? They take it for granted for whatever nice things happen to them. Mostly, you hear more about the complaints from them than to give thanks for dinner, thanks for the ride, and so on.
It’s good to have the dinner conversation about sharing three things they were grateful on that day (don’t cheat and settle for two!).
My girl might tell me something like:
The positive notes help the kids feeding their brains with habitual positive oriented thinking instead of getting stuck in a pattern of negativity. The children learn whatever happened to them are gifted. Sharing the positive stories make them feel connected, and spread the love.
All in all, sharing doesn’t mean to back off when someone tries to take your thing by force. The child should learn to judge the situation. He should learn to protect himself and don’t imitate the bad behavior.
What Could Women Eat Differently To Keep Their Skin Look Glowing? Recipe of Mediterranean Salad with Salmon
What are the main ingredients for a woman beauty? A beautiful woman should own the flawless, clear, and supple baby soft skin to look young and healthy. I’m on the long journey to explore the way about how to make my skin to look glowing. Spend more with less effort is by consuming tons of skin care cosmetic stuff might be an easy shortcut method. Shortcut method always means short term. The health of your gut is fundamental for skin care. Have you ever heard people say that “garbage-in, garbage-out”? This logic couldn’t apply for how our body system work. The input of junk food into our body would culminate to release the toxic chemical which affects the hormones, speed up the aging process of organs, overweight, and hazardous to our health. Mindful eating to consume plant-based healthy food, loading the rich fiber to clean the gut.
1. Juicing vs. Eating the Vegetables in their Whole Form
It's a great way to take my time to consume loads of vitamins and minerals from fruits and vegetable juice. I read from the magazine to tell Gwyneth Paltrow and Miranda Kerr to take their de-toxic drink keeping their weight down. The recipes look good...
Fruits and vegetable juice can’t replace eating vegetables in their whole form. A healthy diet should contain a mix of both soluble and insoluble fiber. The optimum ratio is 1:2. However, juicing would remove the insoluble fiber. Insoluble fiber helps to cleanse the gut, remove the bacteria, strengthen the immune system, and reduce fatigue. Most of the juice you can buy in the supermarket has added sugar which results in excessive sugar consumption and causes you overweight.
The juice has nearly no vitamin C. Vitamin C helps to regulate the cortisol level, and the stressful people would consume more vitamin C. For those people who only drink the juice would consume insufficient vitamin C result in feeling tired, fatigue, and bedridden.
Drinking juice gets insufficient vitamin B which can help to produce serotonin. Serotonin is the happy hormones with a relaxing effect on the nerves system to reduce tension and help you to sleep well. Good sleep makes you feel better and banish your under-eye circles.
Eating vegetables increase the feeling of fullness, feeling satisfied after each meal, without eating much calorie.
2. Real Fresh vs. Artificial Fresh
The leaves of vegetables with holes chewed in them are probably not appealing to you. Ever wonder why you bought the salad from the supermarket and stored in the fridge for weeks and it could keep “evergreen” without any sign of decay. The brightly colored fruits and the perfect green vegetables without any holes look so perfect to deceive you that they are garden fresh and sticky-sweet. The fruits taste a bit sour is natural. Vegetables with holes may have bugs chewed in them. High concentration of pesticides can get rid of the bugs which make the green looks good but harmful to our health.
Recipe: Mediterranean Salad with Salmon
Mixed vegetable salad with salmon
Make the lemon basil vinaigrette:
Make the salad:
Make the salmon
In a large bowl mix the fresh salad ingredients together, dressing with lemon basil vinaigrette, drizzle feta cheese over top and serve with the salmon.
Add-on Tips Other Than The Diet
1. Chew thoughtfully
Enjoy your food, chew thoughtfully, and relax when eating. Otherwise, you put a strain on the digestive system and increase your susceptibility to intolerants.
2. 70% full per meal.
Eat frequent, 70% full per meal. Occasionally fasting to allow the gut to take a rest and refresh. No breakfast and dinner, afternoon eat a lot of vegetables.
3. Do exercise
Exercise is good to increase circulation, ease cramps, reduce stress, improves mood, stabilize hormones and keep your weight down.
4. Intention to smile
Your smile makes other people happy, which in turn make you happy. It is a magical thing that will brighten your days and the days of people around you, and yet cost you nothing, and improve your mood.
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