Susan is looking for a long-term relationship, wants to marry a good man, raise the kids to live a happy life. Those are the humble wishes of a woman. She asks herself, why can’t I always get what I want? My husband betrayed me. My kid hated me.
Amy has climbed the corporate ladder in a short period. She is never short of money with a good husband and adorable children. While everyone admires her, why she doesn’t feel happy?
Ann loves growing and learning. She attended plenty of workshops, changed jobs, started-up her own business. It seems like all these are not working for her. What wrong with her?
Jenny couldn’t understand why all her bosses and boyfriends were jerks. She is facing repeating patterns in life. How to change the repeating pattern?
When everything appears to go perfect in your life, suddenly terrible thing happens such as serious illness, business failure, get fired, or your loved one passed away. All your pillars suddenly collapse all at once. What can you do for the healing?
These are not stories from movies. They are so real that would happen at some point in our life. Never expect there is a hero who will come to rescue us. There is no hero on earth. I’m seeking answers for the turning point to help myself and others. It’s a long journey. I invite you to join me on this journey to seek a path forward with guidance and offer solace about what’s happening and what’s next.
Let’s start with the issue of balance. Everything in life need balance:
You will not fall if you get the balance. On the contrary, one pillar falls, a collapse will occur.
Said is easier than done, of course.
Have you ever realized that the unbalance is happening all the time in our life because we are good at making the unbalance shift? Why does this happen to us?
1. Suppress Emotions
How to respond to your emotional unhappiness when you are not ok? When our anger, sorrow, sadness collided within our hearts, we tell ourselves life must go on. When our mind and spirit are not ready to move-on, we push our body to keep going for work. We maintain our calm exterior because we don’t want to appear weak in front of the frail-heart-soul. Those anger and sorrow had buried deep into our psyche. They had not disappeared. You would project out those emotions with someone somewhere to affect your life.
2. Are You More Of Them, Less Of You?
How well do you understand yourself? What motivated you to do this thing and not that thing? Are you happy from the bottom of your heart? How to get along with your inner self? What are your needs and drives? If we care enough to be new tomorrow, we ought to get the courage to transform from what we used to believe. The person we want to become can’t possibly be the same as the person we were. Are you willing to make changes to be the best version of you so that you love yourself regardless other people hate you or not?
3. Reluctant To Let Go
Will you throw away the stuff in your house? At some point, you have to realize that it’s time to let them go. So did your intangible aspect in your life by:
Stop holding on the question of why. Let them go.
The next questions are how to handle our negative emotions and understand our inner selves. Let's explore in the upcoming posts (work on progress).
It would be great to enjoy the fun with a bunch of roller coasters of emotions. There are highs and lows, and in between them, you will grow.
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