What do the fat people eat?
They eat the food with a lot of sugar.
What do the skinny people eat?
They eat the food with less sugar.
The men wonder why the women love dessert so much as if her stomach has reserved a space for dessert whatever how full she is. When I am happy, I want to eat something sweet. When I am down, I also want to eat something sweet. Ever wonder what the sugar can do to affect our mood?
Why do you tend to eat something sweet when you feel stressful? The brain loves sugar, 85% of the energy comes from sugar. The sugar makes the glucose in your body inflated. Insulin helps to keep your blood sugar level from getting too high. As a result, your body is fermented to generate the emotion of stress and anxiety. Consuming too much sugar is not a good thing. I can't understand why women tend to love desserts or sweets more than any other food. Homemade skinny desert by using less sugar can feed your desire to eat something sweet. I like to eat the Japanese souffle pancake. It is my favorite food not only for dessert, but take it as breakfast as well. It is super airy, like souffle.
What is the diet of energetic people?
They eat broth.
What is the diet of fatigue people?
They don't eat broth.
The dietitians told us glutamic acid works for the health of our immune and digestive system, and energy production as well. It has the benefit to protect the intestinal mucosa, destroy harmful bacteria, and lower the colon cancer risk. It contributes to boots the health of the nervous system, produce the serotonin to reduce stress and anxiety. Food such as shellfish, kombu, mushrooms, and tomatoes contain glutamic acid. Bouillabaisse is one of my favorite soup that combines the health benefits with the delicious taste. What is bouillabaisse? It is the classic Provençal seafood stew from the French port city of Marseilles. This broth is the finest way to consume fresh seafood which is super delicious. Whereas, the quality of the ingredients determines the perfect art of culinary through the flavors of the seafood to shine through.
1. Make sure the fishes are fresh
Pick what is available in where you live. What fishes are in season or what are the fishermen’s big catch. How to tell the fish is fresh? The fish grill has the smell of seawater instead of the fishy or decay smell. The fish eyes are black and white clear, eye white has transparent reflective color, not in diffuse color. When you cut the fish into pieces, the fresh fish fillet should appear light red, not pale dull.
If you bought the fishes from the store but not prepare to cook immediately, you don’t need to washing or rinsing the fishes. Wrapped them up with paper, put inside a plastic bag, and stored in the fridge. This help to prolong the freshness of the fishes.
Cod is my favorite choice. The trick is to pick the white-light skin cod which tell it comes from the cold ocean where should be their perfect living environment. How about the cod with darker skin color? They taste fishy because they come from the warmer ocean.
2. Buy what kind of clams, mussels, and shrimps?
The shell appears shiny if they are produced or raised in the aquaculture farm. Shellfishes from the sea catch which get a better taste. Add white wine on them to reduce the fishy smell and tastier.
3. Use the best oil
There are various kinds of healthy oil including sesame oil, walnut oil, or morocco culinary argan oil. Olive oil is nice. It is not so simple if you regard the extra virgin olive oil is the best of its type, and some would use the chemical enhancer. How to tell the oil is good?
Health Benefits about broth
Meat and fish are rich in nucleic acid. Nucleic acid contains inosinic acid and guanylic acid helps to boost mentalism with anti-aging properties. Probiotic food such as fermented tuna, miso soup, yogurt, and raw cheese helps to prevent the illnesses like Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS), diverticulosis, and colon cancer. You know what? If you have a healthy bowel movement and your colon is clean, it helps to maintain healthy skin and anti-aging.
Did you tell yourself that your child was born to be a winner? Jenny is my friend who makes use of all opportunities to tell everyone that her kid is the smartest person in the universe.
Jenny: Amy (her kid) is god damn smart. She started to talk early, learned faster than his classmates, and achieved the highest grade among the peers…
Me: Well, yes, Amy is smart. I have no doubt about this.
Jenny: That’s all you say? Your baby is also a genius. She can catch up with the others if you help her scheduling more learning classes before it’s too late...
Did this sound familiar to you? Other parents always tell you what you should do and what you shouldn’t do as if they define your to-do-list, or you require someone to judge what is the meaning for your happiness. When we compare ourselves to those who have more, we feel bad. When we compare ourselves to those who have less, we feel grateful. Comparing your kid with the other would trigger his negative emotion of envy and jealousy in his life, so do the parents compare among themselves. Ever wonder if your neighbor has a luxury car or get broke has anything to do with you? And actually, we never know anyone else’s situation. When you see your friend’s family who always seems to be traveling around the world, they could be up to their eyeballs in credit card debt and about to get fired by their boss.
You can't outsource the homeschooling to the traditional schooling system. Our schooling system tries to tell our kids that we live in a world of a zero-sum game, all people are in a race, the point is to win. It tells you have to win over the ones next to you and beat down everyone else to move up. If you are not up, then you will be out. The kid would get used to evaluating people and objects by compare and contrast, not by their substances. The true is no one can win everyone all the time. Just like a running horse, some of the time it can run very fast, some other time it would run slower. Criticize the child from comparing with others is not a way for improvement to the child development. He would go through his life, at a deep core, that he is not good enough.
Imagine you are walking a snail. The snail is moving very slow and frustrates to catch up in baby steps. You blame it and yelling at it. The snail stares at you in regret as if to tell you it has already done its best. You continue to pull it and kick it. The snail is hurt, sweating and choking. And it is moving forward, slowly. The joyful time spends together become so hard on each other.
Home is the safe place where the child can go as he is and not be questioned. If your kid is not doing well in school, lighten up! Some people do very well in school and you think they will be superstars…they aren’t. You see some people who are written off but achieve tremendous things...I would like to see my kid who is able to solve the interesting problems rather than obtain the grade A in school. The child can thrive in the endeavor for the self-improvement and personal advancement. They are on the journey to take the responsibilities in which they excel and ask for help when they are struggling.
Like most of the parents, I do believe my child well equip with his unique talents. He would not be a background character in someone else film. It’s my responsibility to help him hear his inner voice, follow his passion, and unlock his talents for crafting the path leading to happiness and success.
People talk about talent. Most people would get more than one talent. How to spot and nurture talent in your child? What would your child love to do for the sake of doing? Even just for 15 minutes. Just like the fish is the last to realize the water. Does the kid get the instinct talking to him as if he already knows what he wants to do, how to do it, and can do better than anybody else?
However, I couldn't agree more that talent is only half way journey. It is not uncommon a child is vulnerable to the distraction from all sort of entertainment. The child is easily getting bored. My kid is a genius in playing musical instruments, but he has a bad habit for not able to finish what he had started. One day, I asked my kid, “What is your dream?” You know what? When I expected he would tell me he wanted to be a musician or to be a bus driver. He told me his dream was effortless to get everything he wanted! All gain, no pain?! Maybe he watches the TV program too much.
Success won't happen without perseverance.
if people only knew how hard I worked to gain my mastery, it wouldn’t seem so wonderful at all (~ Michelangelo)
Imagine a sculptor looks at his piece of stone and endlessly questions of new ways to shape it. Learning and practicing day after day so that the work always in progress. Doing what the child is good at is important, and develop the habit of the child keeps on practicing until he can master the skill for proficiency is more important. Well, yes, the child should develop the virtue of perseverance and this can begin at home.
Home is where the kid learns the virtues of life. It's where our children learn how to love and care. Our virtues imbue in our children shape their lives and futures. I think gardening or planting with kids is a great way to build the virtue of patience. Planting seeds and watching them grow helps children learn the beauty of patience. Children learn they can’t achieve the desired end overnight. It takes time and effort same as the plant starts from a seed, grow to become strong, flowering and blossom. They gain the sense of satisfaction and accomplishment from caring something over time.
We are meant to have goals in our life. Money is not the goal. It's a means to reach our goal. It requires more patience and more planning when we make use of this resources. What would you like to do other than making money?
1. Spot a dream place to visit
Curiosity is more important than money. We all want to go to our dreamland. Where is your dreamland? Spot a place that you have fascinated for long to have a visit. It is my curiosity to explore the different between the dreamland on my mind and the reality. I would like to visit Wordsworth House in Cockermouth of Cumberland. You feel amazing to follow the footsteps of Wordsworth to find whether the golden daffodils are growing “beside the lake, beneath the trees "fluttering and dancing in the breeze" and "tossing their heads in sprightly dance“. I wonder whether the daffodils are really so much beautiful same with Wordsworth had described in his poetry. I really want to take a closer look.
2. Handmade my signature stuff
Homemade D.I.Y stuff is a creature adventure. It is easy, frugal, creative and fulfilling. It demands from us to focus both physically and mentally on a task. If you’re concentrating on your crafty work, you can’t be worrying about anything. It also gives a great feeling of pride in using your hands to create something unique. There is something wonderful about pointing to your baby’s shoes and saying “I did that". Every stuff has its own character, it charms, you feel good about your creativity. You make it and your loved one used it.
3. Set up the romantic moment with your partner
Sometimes, I feel tired in a relationship, I talk to myself:
I can do much work as any man,
I know how to cook my food;
I can do my laundry;
I can earn the money to support my kids;
I can drive the car to any place I want to go;
I can even fight and beat a strong person;
I have friends to hang out with...
If so, I don't need a man....
And when I felt loneliness, I wanted to find the companionship. I realized that someone you couldn't find, someone you shouldn’t find, and someone you were not able to find...
Well, yes, you would feel so good to have someone that you want to spend the time in the rest of your life and a heart fill with love. When you feel tired in a relationship, do you remember the day you first start talking with each other? Travel back in time when you first met him. You knew that exciting, terrifying feeling like butterflies in your stomach. Set up the romantic moment with him, have a candle light dinner, end with a kiss like the first time all over again....
4. Organize a crazy party gathering
Gathering with the school friends bring me back to the days when I was 20 something youth. Friendship beat money. People around keep talking, telling jokes, someone burst out laughing. It is the magic of the community leads to happy quality time.
5. Be a volunteer
While you give your time to help the local charity, you feel good about yourself not only because you are helping others, it will also help you. Maybe you can join the program of foster parents by using a couple of hours reading, playing, sitting, and talking with children. Give the children love and attention.
6. Read a book
My world is boring. I want something new and exciting to feed my brains. Reading a book is a great way to explore something extraordinary out of my realm of understandings. It gives me a lot of fun, imagination, entertainment, and learning.
I couldn’t agree more that the happiness part of the vacation happens when you start planning or anticipating a great time ahead, aren’t you? Summer vacation had become a routine for my family. The journey can be heaven, or it can be hell. Nevertheless, few things in life that will impact you as much as traveling will. It’s better to travel thousands of miles than to read thousands of books. On the other hands, travel miles but learning nothing, then you are just a postman (proverb). The adventure is out there. How will traveling impact your life?
1. You Always Have Funny Stories To Tell
Riding the hot air balloon to take a glance at the stunning view of the magnificent landscape in Luxor is never short of amazing. My hubby, John, asked the pilot:
John: "Why did all those hot air balloons not fly in the same directions?"
Pilot: "It is normal. The balloon flight path is depending on the wind condition and pilot control."
John: "Had accident occurred before?"
Pilot: "Yes, sometimes accident did happen. I think this time is ok."
John: "How long have you been working for piloting the balloon?"
Pilot: "Oh, me? I learned the skill of piloting and practice 5 times. And then I can do the job.”
John: "Do you need to get a license to do this job?"
Pilot: "Yes, I used three hours and then I was able to get the license."
The balloon was not moving stable and the pilot seemed unsure where the balloon could be landed. All passengers grasped the basket tightly and prayed for a safe landing. The balloon was finally landing on the sugar cane field which was not in the planned location. They stayed on the ground for half hour waiting for the crew to collect the passengers and equipment.
And there were many more stories from the traveling experience...
2. Who is your companion?
Ever wonder you would feel boring on a cruise? If you are traveling by plane, you only have to endure for hours. And the cruise trip is talking about staying on a ship for weeks. The key is who is your companion. Last year I asked my mom to join our family vacation trip on a cruise. When she was young, she never had the time and money to travel. I couldn’t agree more to believe that “the greatest tragedy of the family is the unlived lives of the parents” (Carl Gustav Jung). I enjoy the time to talk about life with my mom on the ship deck at 2 am.
3. Leave yourself some times to be silly, to laugh
Every trip is meant to be an Easter egg-riddled journey for the kids. The children are having so much fun when they are playing around. A child can laugh 500 times per day! Ever wonder why the children laugh much more often than adults do. We don't need to be serious all the time, leave ourselves some time for pure silliness, like a child. Maybe everyone has a child heart, whether you are six or sixty years old.
4. Keep a pen and a handy notebook
Every trip is once in a lifetime journey. You may have a chance to visit the same place in some other days. But what you feel the moment right now would never be the same in another time on another day. I have a habit to keep a pen and a notebook (hard copy) handy so that the best of those feeling made it to paper all the way along the journey. You would feel more in control and is missing less.
5. Selfie is not that important
People say that if you don’t like selfie, it’s a sign that you’re old. It is common for the kids to get hooked to post the stunning photos on Facebook to win thousands of “like” as if they had made a remarkable achievement. Well, yes, I saw numerous spectacular selfies were impressive, but the cost is high if they persuade this interest to the stupid behavior. During my summer vacation in two years before, I had joined a boating activity with the kids. A young girl tourist enjoyed selfie all the time focus on the phone camera rather than the dangerous environment. BAM! She had overturned, her head crashed with hard stone, dreadful scarp face was the result.
6. Amazing exotic food
Traveling allows you to understand the other culture and make new friends. What is the topic you would like to talk with a stranger? I love to talk about eating and food. Exotic food culture is fascinating:
7. Switch off from work
You were not able to enjoy the vacation if your hubby did not remember to switch off from his office work. I told him what was the meaning of the family vacation if he spent most of his time checking and replying emails. Many people get an incomplete concept to think that if you want a career, you have to sacrifice your family life. If you want a family life, you have to sacrifice your career. How come your time is an accounting of minutes? Your time is a measure of commitment, concern, and efficiency. Not everything is a zero-sum game. Most people you encounter are just visitors. The family is for life.
8. Get Over Anxiety
For some people, they are not able to get over the anxiety from non-refundable fares, tight schedule, security issues, natural disasters or any other inconvenience things that may happen on vacation. It did happen when you asked a cab driver for the places of best theaters or restaurants, but he brought you to the crappy place that is far from your expectation. It's not a big deal. Vacations are meant for enjoyment. We should spend the time to unwind and relax. It is true "there is no such thing as bad weather, only inappropriate clothing" (Alfred Wainwright).
Don’t talk about going to Borneo. Book a ticket, get a visa, pack a bag, and it just happens (Alex Garland)
Are you settling for less than you deserve? How settled are you? How will you describe yourself?
Unmoved as a rock
A vase rarely moves an inch; or
A bird in a cage; or
A lamb ties a belt around its neck; or
A swallow is flying to a faraway destination occasionally stop over for a rest; or
A fly is flying aimlessly to nowhere.
What if you are an artist to build the rock balancing work.
It seems like impossible and unlikely. You get it. It’s difficult. Not impossible.
Have you ever asked your parents how much they had sacrificed for the family? What were the opportunities that they had given up? What was the cost? Are you willing to make the same sacrifice? Why? What did they say? How about you?
You aren’t the same as your parents were 20 years ago. You have new experiences and lessons learned. And society isn’t the same either. You like to find new ways to balance and blend career and family. You can do it.
1. Essential vs. Useful
Not everything has equal importance. If you don’t prioritize your life, someone else will. It takes discipline and knowing your own priorities. Your boss may demand extra long hours; your co-workers may ask you to solve their problems, or your friend may ask you to buy them something. Couldn’t agree more for the hardest thing to say is "no" because you want to be helpful, to be nice and to get approval from peers and boss. However, you need to say no to create more time to focus on your current priorities.
When someone comes to distract your current priority, you've to ask yourself:
Is it important?
Is it important for me?
Is it important now?
Essential and Useful is not the same.
Great performance at work is useful, approval from the boss is useful, but family relationship is essential. The family should come before business, isn’t it?
2. It’s not Zero-Sum Game
When you talk about work-life balance. It is as if you are asking can a woman half pregnant? If you spend more money on housing, you will have to spend less on your car. Many people view their lives in much the same way that every additional expense has to be matched with an equal reduction in spending. If they want career, they have to sacrifice family time. If they want a family life, they have to sacrifice their career. This concept is misleading.
The quantity of hours spent working or thinking about work, or hours spent with our families, does not predict achievement or life satisfaction. Instead, the quality of those hours- how stressful or relaxing they are – is a much more crucial in producing a satisfying family life and career. Your time is a measure of commitment, concern, and efficiency, not just quantity. You manage to do what you are doing when you are doing it.
3. You Always Have a Choice
Feeling guilty about working, feeling guilty about not working and contributing to the family, feeling guilty about not making enough homemade dinners, feeling guilty about enjoying 'me time'? The hard thing is that sometimes we forget we have a choice. We feel like the choice had already been made for us. Things will be what they will be.
If you’re a career mum and the nine-to-five, Monday to Friday grind is not worked for you. You may talk to your boss about flexible schedule; or reduce your hours to a part-time job.
Unless you’re in prison, you don’t have to do anything. You choose to do things. You might ask, “What difference does that make? I have to do the laundry, or I choose to do the laundry. Either way it has to be done.” It’s the difference between taking an action because something of value is at stake for you and taking an action because you are being forced to do so. Doing the laundry is a choice you make because you value being clean. You do the laundry for your family members because you love them. Is anyone forcing you to do the laundry? No. When you see all the options you have, you can begin to appreciate the choices you make.
I love spending some hours on the sidewalk. You will have so much fun to watch the little bugs crawl in and out of the pebbles. Someone walks a weird skinny dog reckoning with a kindness smile. The kids are climbing the tree fifty times a day, scrabbling up trunks fearlessly into the branches, towards the tip-top, through a tangle of green limbs that swaddled them like a living hammock. Or they may lie in the grass to feel the blades tickle their necks. You feel the sunshine hit your face with a cool breeze. Take deep breaths with full inhalation and exhalation. Tell your body and your mind that everything is ok.
1. Gather leaves, flowers, or seeds that mean something to your family
The fruit of the native pine is a small cone with the seed ripening in autumn. The cypress cone has a clean woody energizing aroma. I love to collect the cypress and use them to fill up the pillow for producing the comfort effect and stimulate feelings of joy and happiness. Aromatherapists believe it has the calming effect during times of emotional stress.
2. You never really looked at them when you were alive
How lucky we are to be alive right now. Live in the present to look around the beautiful thing is happening around us. Every morning, walk a dog, I look around to take a photo of a flower and share it on Facebook. It’s so sad to allow yourself to live too many empty yesterdays and realize it’s too late to chasing daylight.
3. D.I.Y your miniature fairy tale garden
Ever feel that your eyes strain from too much screen time? I like to spend the time to make my miniature garden instead. It was a chance to spend time every day, without any worries and concerns, doing something interesting. What sort of story I’m going to create on today? How about little teddy meets the lazy cat in the fairy garden? D.I.Y the miniature garden is a great way to build the peaceful concentration by discarding impatience and irritation. You feel better about yourself to express your creativity.
When to worry the child development?
The mobile device such as the smartphone and the tablet are the creamy filling that distracts us from the substance of our lives. The kids spend so much time on web browsing, online games, and social media that it inhibits their ability to carry on a face to face conversation. TV and the electronic devices rob our time and never gives it back. As a harassed parent, it is easier to use the gadgets as bribery or enticements for making the kids busy and quiet. It works well to..
You know what, Steve Jobs, who was the one invented these devices to revolutionize the human behavior, prohibited his kids to use the computer or smartphone at night or during the weekend. He allowed his kids used the computer or tablet for doing school works only. Why you would allow the mobile device to rob the time for the conversation with your kids, reading books together and telling stories.
I suggest set the family rule:
The kids would get so much fun to fire a bow and arrow,
climbing a tree,
riding a dirt bike,
playing cowboy and Indian with just a stick and leaf,
breathing heavy, feel the wind whipping against their face...
And forget about the electronic games.
It’s not funny if you’re always struggling with money. How much money can I earn? How big is my bank account? Money is the cause of my anxiety. Why? If you’re broke, you lost your house, lose your family, lost your self-respect, and lost everything. You don’t want to get broke. Why I always feel I’m on the verge of bankruptcy? What wrong with me?
1. Excessive buying from the one-click shopping universe
Whenever I tried to de-clutter my house, I was surprised why I had bought so many useless things I don’t need.Is it because online shopping has never been easier? Or maybe merely it is an easy way to release the negative emotion.
2. Chase after full when you have enough
It’s easy to confuse our desire for the feeling of full with the feeling of enough. “The only satisfying state is full. In fact, full doesn’t last and full isn’t desirable.Enough doesn’t feel like full, but that’s ok…The advertisers, marketers, and the media make us believe that buying the expensive products is a way to uplift our status and taste.Social media is further amplified the wonderful life from our peers make us feel like we are in the state of not enough” (Seth Godin)
Well yes, if today is your last day on earth, ask yourself what are the things that you are proud of or what are the things that make you happy?Is your car on the list?Is the size of your home on the list? The building blocks of happiness are our relationship with friends and family, the contribution we have made to other people lives, and the celebrated events in our life. We don’t need to chase after the full of the luxury goods. When some people rush through the gate to the dream town, there is some other people race through the gate to get out from that town at the same time. Why? They feel like their current state is not enough, they regard good thing can only happen on the other side of the gate.
3. Educate the concept of money
I have not much concept about money. My parents rarely taught me the financial education as if money is a scary evil thing. Well, yes, we are pleasure seekers. We get hooked on the pleasure comes from caffeine, tobacco, entertainment or premium stuff. Pleasure is short-term, addictive and selfish. It works on dopamine. When the debt is easier than ever to go into, why even consider sacrificing the pleasure for the long-haul benefits? The long haul will take care itself, isn’t it? OMG! It doesn’t. We have to define our context to prioritize our spending. Do you spend the money on the stuff that can build up your assets or pay for the liability? An asset is something you can be owned to produce value matter to you in the long run. For instances, buy a home is building your asset, pay the monthly rental is a liability. Spend the money on studying a training course for mastering a useful skill is building your asset. Buy expensive Hermes bag to believe that someone is watching you is a liability.
When you go into spending money on the expensive thing, ask yourself the following three questions (borrow the idea from Warren Buffet):
Stop and smell the rose. Made better money decision on the truly important things.
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