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Ever wonder there must be something that can trigger your hot button instantly.
Think carefully about what’d happened in the past that could stir up your negative emotion intensely. I couldn't control my flame when I knew that..
OMG! It’s a matter of jealousy. I always like to compare myself with someone else. How did other people think about me? Did they respect me and like me? It seems like my self-worth requires other people to define or judge. The emotion that appears on the surface is angry. The underlying core emotion is fear or insecurity. I fear the other person will take away the thing that is supposed to be mine. You know what? The root cause was implanted during my childhood when my mom always tried to remind me that I was not good enough. What did I want in my childhood life? What can I do my best to my children not to repeat my pattern? Words carry weight. It’s harmful to criticize the child with disappointment and comparison to say something like:
Instead, don’t let a single day go by without telling the kids:
I know you can do this
I believe in you
I trust you
I’m proud of you
You make me happy
I like it when you do such good thing
I’m grateful for you
I love you
You are a good child because…..
Do you know that you can’t do that in last year and now you can make it!
You do it by yourself! Good job.
I've a wounded inner child inside my heart. I'm so happy my children are the angels to allow me to get my second childhood...
What to do when you lose your job, suffer business failure, or suddenly your husband asks for a divorce? Susan is my friend. Ten years before, she was 45 years old, had fallen from the top of a corporate ladder who struggled to survive from depression, bankruptcy, and divorce. What is her situation now? She has her own business with seven figures in revenue. How to turnaround from defeat to success? She shared her insights that had helped me a lot.
1. Celebrate It
On the day she got fired, she went to enjoy a perfect lunch in her most beloved restaurant. Ever wonder you got fire was not a coincidence of bad luck but somewhat the job or the boss you’d disliked for a long time. Ironically, you might unaware you hated your bosses in your subconscious mind. But they did aware of it more than you do. Nothing worth looking back on except for learning to understand yourself.
The bad thing did happen. Let's celebrate! It can be a relief. Boost up the energy to move on.
2. Appreciate Yourself
Don’t beat yourself up with the self-blame. Catch yourself on what you had done right, instead of what you had done wrong. In a few years before, when I got fired, I appreciated myself for what I had contributed to the company such as:
Recognized and appreciated my strengths such as:
When you appreciate yourself, you build up your self-worth to make a solid ground with confidence. We connect with our inner power to remind ourselves that we can deal with all sorts of challenges.
3. Regard The Setback As Blessing
Every obstacle or setback is the gift arrange by God (or the universe) to teach us. The same pattern would repeat until we have learned, finally. Ever wonder when the student is ready, the teacher will find you (proverb).
I got fired multiple times that urged me to re-examine the root cause. Most of the time, the question itself had hidden the answer. The question I asked myself was: What bordering me most during my career life?
And then, I realized that my issue was jealousy and thirst for approval from the authority. The core emotion was my fear of not being good enough. That was the reason why..
My core issue is about dealing with jealousy and low self-worth. The learning is about self-love.
4. Daily Mantras
Motivate yourself through daily mantras. Your mind doesn’t know what your narrative is real or not. Very often, our brain is preoccupied with negativity from storing the memory of past failures. We need to feed our minds with positive energy every day.
My mantras are:
When you say it, close your eye to feel it, to believe in it. You don’t get what you want. You get what you feel.
5. Create Value
Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds you plant (Robert Louis Stevenson). How to plant the seeds? The answer is helping those people who want the same thing as you:
You might hear people tell you there are three ways to be successful:
The most effective way is to team up with others. Money follows joy. A joyful person is influential, spreading out the love and positive energy upon others. Good people attract good people to help each other. The magic is the whole universe is conspired on your side to make your success.
I’m where I should be.
Never too early nor too late.
Star and moon can shine when it’s their time.
Cheers. Good Luck!
Digital marketer, writer, editor, feminine optimistic style, pursuit of happiness, addict to coffee.