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Relationship: What Game Are You Playing?

10/27/2020

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​Ever wonder what game are you playing:
  • She’s a fabulous sexy sweetheart who continual pursuit of love but doesn’t want to get married.
  • She’s a bossy career woman, wants to conquer everything, and doesn’t choose her family.
  • She’s a desperate woman and wants to marry a man quickly.
  • She’s a naïve girl, basically has no ideas about men.

Relationship Series: Fabulous Sexy Sweetheart

​She is a fabulous sexy sweetheart.  She pursuit of love and doesn’t want to get married.  What game is she playing? The games she is playing are:
  • Impress me or get out of my sight
  • I know everything

Impress Me Or Get Out Of My Sight

She won’t appreciate what she has but keep chasing after what she’s missing.  There would be a time within the different development stages (puberty/sexual maturation stage) of a woman that someone would crush on you. At that time, you can show how brutal or capricious temper you are. One of the frustrating things is that there would be an expiry date!

I Know Everything

She can’t trust a man with her heart and soul. Trust is like a sword. I give it to you whether you will use it to hurt me or protect me.  She tends to believe he will use it to hurt her.  Her dad had an affair with a woman, and the parents were divorced when she was five years old. She implanted the belief carried from her childhood that men are irresponsible, unreliable, and like cheating.  Is it true? Or does she need it to be true?  If you decide that your belief is actually true, you owe it to yourselves to be clear about what would have happened for you to realize that it’s not. 

Stay tuned for the upcoming post: Relationship: Bossy Career Woman
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Sunny Morning Or Rainy Afternoon. Coffee, Please.

10/22/2020

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While many people like to order the takeaway cup in the Starbuck, or drink in a rush and go, I’m attracted to the romance of the coffee experience by sitting inside a comfortable coffee shop, to enjoy my favorite cup of coffee, sipping slowly, to enjoy each mouthful well.   The soft light and the calm music make me feel relax. The beautiful lyric from the old song swirling around with the coffee aromas brings up a variety of good feelings.  When my friends spend time on social media, networking, or searching for entertainment, I like to spend time on coffee.
Coffee taste profiles

​Black coffee or Latte?

Let’s come together over coffee for a time of relaxation.  People try to convince the world that water is boring, coffee is great. It works.  What is good coffee?  Good coffee is like a gorgeous woman (hot and has good taste 😊).   Bad coffee is bitter, sour, burnt, and astringent. Good coffee is sweet, fruity, chocolaty, smooth, and light-bodied. Different people get different taste profiles over the combination of aromas, sweetness, floral, fruits, and nutty cocoa.
 
Whenever I feel tired, I’ll get an expresso.  This tiny cup is strong enough to get me fueled all day long. We should avoid caffeine as it would dry out our skin, shouldn’t we?  Well, yes, but coffee lovers don’t like decaffeinated.  If you drink decaffeinated coffee, you are better to drink chocolate.
 
 If you ask for a “latte” in Italy, you’ll most probably get a cup of cold milk. You should order “latte macchiato” which consists of hot milk add to the coffee. It sounds like coffee and milk are not necessarily friends to bind together.  As a matter of personal taste, black coffee is my taste. But I like latte art. It’s cute.  The cup of coffee looks so lovely by adding a little cat that is made by the milk foam, to see it floating and drowning in the liquid. I have learned to make the DIY Flat white with latte art.  Make a latte at home without an espresso machine is not difficult.  Pour fresh milk into a large bowl, stirring the milk with a whisk until it becomes foam. Add the foam into the espresso. That’s it.

​Evil Partners: Sugar and Desserts?

Coffee is supposed to boost up energy. Why you feel more tired after drinking coffee?  It’s because you add high sugar, partner with sweetie desserts.  When the brain needs energy, it wants sugar that makes the blood sugar inflated. The insulin suppresses the high blood sugar, blood sugar deflated, hormone comes out to balance, and makes the body further stress and fermented.  As a result, you will feel anxiety, stress, and fatigue.
 
But I like partnering dessert with coffee, anyway.  A perfect match for coffee is partnering it with cookies, cheesecake, or blueberry cake.  The taste of Kona coffee is strong when partnering with chocolate.  On the other hand, the taste of Blue Mountain coffee is light so that when partnering with cake or sweet snack will cover the coffee taste.  Italian coffee is great to drink after the full meal…All in all, sweetie desserts have high sugar that needs to avoid consuming too much.

​Explore Coffee Culture

When I was traveling to other countries, I would like to experience their coffee culture.  Have you ever captivated by the romance of the Italian coffee experience? I was attracted to try Italian coffee in Antico Caffe Greco. It was one of the best-known and oldest bar (opened in 1760) in Rome. Historical figures of artists, writers, and musicians including Stendhal, Goethe, Bertel Thorvaldsen, Mariano and so on have had coffee there. The fame of the café has attracted an influx of tourists that makes it always a bit too crowded. 
 
The little cafés around Australia are impressive. They are brewing their coffee, fresh and local.  Your favorite barista knows how to make your coffee just as you like it. When you're sitting down at a little café in Australia, order a cup of coffee, make your judgment for the taste difference.

 
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All in all, what else of your coffee experience that can share with me?

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Mom’s Secret:  How To Completely Change A Jealous Child?

10/7/2020

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When I was a child, I always felt jealous of everything:
  • I was jealous of my sibling got more attention than me;
  • The teacher treated my classmate better than me;
  • My classmate looked more beautiful than me;
  • My friends got more toys than me.
 
During my childhood, my mom always liked to compare me with others as if she was trying to tell me I was not good enough. I felt angry and affected my self-esteem.  I was pondering why did the parent like to compare her kid with others? 
 

What did I want in my childhood life? What can I do my best to help my children to strengthen their self-esteem?  When we compare ourselves to those who have more, we feel bad. When we compare ourselves to those who have less, we feel grateful. Comparing ourselves with the other would trigger our negative emotions of envy and jealousy upon others, so do the kids compare among themselves.  What causes jealousy in a child? It might because the parent always likes to compare him or her with someone else.

My Child Has To Be Remarkable?

A parent uses to think that her kid should be special, has to be extraordinary, needs to be remarkable.  They would think their kid should be better than yours. They want to compare how well their kid's scores in school, in the performance in whatever contests, and all sorts of context in all different areas.

Jenny (my friend) makes use of all opportunities to tell everyone that her kid is born to be a winner:
Jenny: 
Amy (her kid) is so smart.  She started to talk early, learned faster than her classmates, and achieved the highest grade among the peers…

Me:
Well, yes, Amy is smart. I have no doubt about this.

Jenny:
You know what?  Your girl is not bad. You should help her to catch up with the others, such as scheduling more learning classes before it’s too late...
Very often, you might meet other parents who tried to tell you what you should do and what you shouldn’t do as if they define your to-do-list. My kids don’t need to do groundbreaking things to live a meaningful life. They don’t need to be the person to land on the moon. Actually, they don’t need to be the person to do anything. By the end of the day, we are all bunch of ants trying to chase the same thing. Don’t take yourself so seriously to hunch on one element of expecting our kids to do something great and remarkable. Lighten up! Help the kids to enjoy most moments of the day, something like running and playing, eating the ice-cream slowly....

It's Not A Race

If your neighbor has a luxury car or get broke has anything to do with you? And actually, we never know anyone else’s situation.  When you see your friend’s family who always seems to be traveling around the world, they could be up to their eyeballs in credit card debt.
 
Our schooling system tries to tell our kids that we live in a world of a zero-sum game: all people are in a race, the point is to win.  You have to win over the ones next to you and beat down everyone else to move up. If you are not up, then you will be out. The kid would get used to evaluating people and objects by compare and contrast, not by their substances. The truth is no one can win everyone all the time. Just like a running horse, some of the time it can run very fast, some other time it would run slower.
 
If your kid is not doing well in school, lighten up! Some people do very well in school and you think they will be superstars…they aren’t.  You see some people who are written off but achieve tremendous things. The child can thrive in the endeavor for the self-improvement and personal advancement.  We, as parents, help them on the journey to take the responsibilities in which they excel and ask for help when they are struggling.

Deal With Strengths and Weakness

When the kid grows older, the parent tends to focus on the kid’s weakness rather than their strengths. Why not appreciate the beauty of the kid the same as the time when he or she was born?  Even though I’m an adult now, whenever my mom says the negative comments on me in a way that makes it sound like she disappoints in me still make me burn inside. It cuts my feeling deeply.  The parents play a critical role in cultivating a deep sense of self-esteem for their children.  The child can accept negative comments from those who are not close to him or her because he or she can believe they reflect a lack of knowledge about him or her.
 
How about the weakness? Everyone has weak areas that make us human. They are gifts from God to keep us humble.  Help the children to appreciate their strengths and accept the weakness as well. 
 
All in all, there is no comparison between the sun and the moon.  They shine when it’s their time.

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Use Enneagram to Understand the Drives of Your Child that You May Not Know (Seven to Nine)

10/7/2020

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An enneagram is a powerful tool that helps us to understand the personalities and drives of behaviors. It can be regarded as one of the perspectives to understand our child better and become a more effective parent. We'd covered One to Three. And Four to Six in the previous post.  Let's continue to check Seven to Nine.

7. The Epicure

Playing and making fun is their strength.  They are enthusiasts for entertainment, want to have fun, to keep themselves excited and occupied.  They use to come up with many creative fun ideas to make people laugh.  You will never be bored with them around.
Key Motivation
The drive is having fun.  Get fun is a way to avoid and discharge pain. They want to maintain their freedom and happiness, to avoid missing out on worthwhile experiences.
Parenting Tips
  1. Appreciate and make use of their creativity for generating so many fun ideas for the family and others.
  2. They are not uncommon to procrastinate their work by shifting attention from time to time.  Train them to follow through on their work and finish what they start.

8. The Protector

Tom always appears resistant, want to dominate, and to stay in control of his situation.  He is a challenger to resist unfair situations or persons.  His mom describes him as a volcano ready to erupt anytime by yelling, screaming, or non-stop arguments. In their world, they want to prove their strength and power, resist to look weak.  
Key Motivation
Want to prove their strength and resist weakness, to be self-reliant, to dominate and control the environment.
Parenting Tips
  1. Treat them in an equal position with adults. They are more likely to listen and co-operate if you treat them like an adult.
  2. They are lack of patience. Communicate with them should straight to the point for their easy understanding.
  3. Avoid covering things not to tell them as they appeal to openness and trust.

9. The Mediator

Rita is a nice person or a peacemaker, always like day-dreaming, and a lack of concentration.  She wants to create harmony in her environment in which no one is disturbed. It is no surprise she can get along almost with everyone.  Some people might describe her as a sponge that can absorb any differences.  It seems like everything doesn’t matter to her as long as there are no conflicts.
Key Motivation
The drive is laziness.  Avoiding conflicts and tension, to preserve things as they are, to resist whatever would upset or disturb the harmony. 
Parenting Tips
  1. ​They are easy to forget things. Keep a paper and a pen handy for the convenience to drop notes to remember things.
  2. They concern more of others and less of themselves. Encourage them to express their ideas for what do they like and dislike. They have to learn to take care of their needs.

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One (Perfectionist)
Two (Giver)
Three (Performer)
Four (Tragic of Romance)
Five (Observer)
Six (The Loyal Skeptic)
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