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Be Authentic Series: The Signs

1/22/2021

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I almost always don’t stay true to myself.  One day, my coworker invited me to her birthday party. I said yes, but I didn’t want to join. On her birthday, I tried to figure out plenty of reasons to explain my absence. 

We learned as early as our childhood to grow into a good person.  The definition of being a good guy seems like is to fulfill the expectation of other people.  As time goes by, we program ourselves to fit-in the role we suppose to be. Under this condition, we bear a great deal of pressure and suppress our emotions to avoid adversaries.  Some people might shift their anger to those they deem weaker such as children, women, and subordinate staff.

I know I won’t be happy if everyone dislikes me;
but what’s the point if everyone likes me, but I dislike myself?

How do you respond under pressure at some point in your life?  If you get the following signs means you are not authentic to yourself to a certain extent.
  1. ​Compromise quickly to avoid conflicts and tension.  You want to make people like you.
  2. Response to fight back or judging others sarcastically. Finger-pointing to blame others.
  3. To say something nonsenses or irrelevance to divert attention from the adversary issue.
  4. Use complicated theories and logical explanations to analyze the issue without a point of view.
Ever wonder the opposite desires are fighting with each other in our mind.  We’re so tired of working between balancing and off-balancing.  
I like it.  I dislike it.
The other people like it.  The other people don’t like it.
I’m okay.  I’m not okay.
I’m right.  I may be wrong.
I’ll win.  I’ll lose.
So, what can we do about this?  Practice mindfulness.  How to connect with your inner-self so that you can clarify your thoughts, feelings, and intentions?  Asking yourself the following questions:
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  • What moments do you feel cherished?
  • What makes you feel sad or regretful?
  • What makes you proud of yourself?
 
The journey helps you to get your most pure inner child to be seen. Whatever the answers are, ensure you appreciate who you are and tell yourself that you have already worked very hard and done very well. Focus on what matters most to you. Love yourself with the courage of being disliked by others.
 
Easier said than done, of course.  It takes effort and worthwhile.
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24 Comments
Len Swegart link
1/26/2021 01:39:11 pm

Staying true to oneself is the way to go, but it is challenging when one practices modesty to gain acceptance from others. Thanks for sharing.

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Cathy@simplylovetag
1/28/2021 10:47:14 pm

We almost always work to balance between stay true to ourselves and compromise to acceptance from others. Thanks for reading.

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Sarah
1/26/2021 03:25:44 pm

That is really good thinking

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Cathy@Simplylovetag
1/28/2021 10:48:01 pm

Thanks for reading.

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Ashley
1/26/2021 03:58:37 pm

I am an extreme introvert so the fear of not being accepted is something that has hindered social experiences for me a lot in my life. This post really resonates with me and my experiences.

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Cathy@Simplylovetag
1/28/2021 10:53:37 pm

I'm also an introvert and well aware of what you feel. We sometimes care too much about what others think. Thanks for reading.

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J Cherry link
1/26/2021 04:13:05 pm

I love this! The more we practice mindfulness and self love, the better we get.

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Cathy@Simplylovetag
1/28/2021 10:55:17 pm

Yes, I want to practice mindfulness and self-love as a habit. Thanks for the reading.

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catherine santiago jose
1/26/2021 07:37:29 pm

Self-love and mindfulness are important and we can be a better version of ourselves if we are able to practice it everyday. Nice article!

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Cathy@Simplylovetag
1/28/2021 10:55:52 pm

Thanks

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Stephanie Pick link
1/26/2021 09:11:48 pm

This is such an important message, thanks for sharing! You are so right, how can we be happy when we deny ourselves to please others!

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Cathy@Simplylovetag
1/28/2021 10:59:24 pm

Glad to learn that the idea resonates with you. Thanks for reading.

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Kimmy
1/27/2021 04:02:15 am

This was such a great read!

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Cathy@Simplylovetag
1/28/2021 10:59:48 pm

Thanks, Kimmy

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Marysa link
1/27/2021 06:11:32 am

These are good things to think about, especially when life gets so busy. Mindfulness and self care are both so important.

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Jen @ JENRON DESIGNS link
1/27/2021 06:48:09 am

This is a mind opening read, and really does make you think, in a world where we think we are all free thinkers and individuals how we are actually sheep just following the leaders.

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Cathy@Simplylovetag
1/28/2021 11:14:31 pm

Well, yes. How to achieve the balance sound simple but not easy.

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Sally link
1/27/2021 09:54:51 am

I thinkit is very important we don't waste time and energy on things we don't want to do. We can always say no and still still be polite about it.

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Sonia Seivwright link
1/27/2021 10:51:49 am

I loves reading this. Opened my mind

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Cathy
1/28/2021 11:15:23 pm

Thanks for the reading, Sonia

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Danielle link
1/27/2021 12:28:09 pm

I think everyone should always stay true to themselves. That’s the best way to your best self.

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CHARLENE link
1/27/2021 02:45:32 pm

Ugh this is me. I am such a people pleaser I just go along with everything. I'm working on it though.

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Nishtha link
1/27/2021 04:33:12 pm

Mindfulness is really important to be self-aware and live in the present. Self love and putting yourself first is so imp!

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Yanitza link
1/27/2021 07:11:13 pm

Practicing mindfulness is definitely a game-changer in so many different aspects of our lives.

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