How To Help The Teen Changing The Frame Of Thoughts?

Words carry weight.   The implications of life events are a matter of perspective. You are the one who signs a meaning to all situations through a certain frame.  How we see the world is more important than how the world is.  Parents can play a huge role in helping their teens to take notice of their thoughts by reframing the negative thoughts to something more positive.  You can try to do this as follows:

Daughter: I feel like Mary (her schoolmate) is a freak.
Mom: What you really mean is that you’re not able to understand your schoolmate’s behavior.
 
Daughter: My friend doesn’t care about me.
Mom: What you mean is your friend does not care about the same thing with you.
 
Daughter: He sucks
Mom: What you mean is he hasn’t met your expectation.
 
Daughter: Susan (her younger sister) is too dependent on me
Mom:  What you mean is your sister needs you to pay more attention to her.
 
Daughter: I get no way to make it.
Mom: What you mean is you haven’t got an effective way yet.
 
Daughter: Mom, I feel hopeless.
Mom: What you mean is you have worked very hard, and not reach the success yet.
 
Daughter: I hate that guy
Mom: What you mean is that guy makes you feel sort of disappointment.
 
Daughter: I hate myself
Mom: What you mean is you set a too high expectation on yourself.
 
Daughter: I do it wrong
Mom: What you mean is that you realize there is room for improvement.
 
Daughter: I want to quit
Mom: What you mean is you feel tired after hold on for long.
 
Daughter: Mom, this outfit is ugly
Mom: This outfit is not ugly.  What you mean is you just dislike it.