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Words carry weight. The implications of life events are a matter of perspective. You are the one who signs a meaning to all situations through a certain frame. How we see the world is more important than how the world is. Parents can play a huge role in helping their teens to take notice of their thoughts by reframing the negative thoughts to something more positive. You can try to do this as follows:
Daughter: I feel like Mary (her schoolmate) is a freak.
Mom: What you really mean is that you’re not able to understand your schoolmate’s behavior.
Daughter: My friend doesn’t care about me.
Mom: What you mean is your friend does not care about the same thing with you.
Daughter: He sucks
Mom: What you mean is he hasn’t met your expectation.
Daughter: Susan (her younger sister) is too dependent on me
Mom: What you mean is your sister needs you to pay more attention to her.
Daughter: I get no way to make it.
Mom: What you mean is you haven’t got an effective way yet.
Daughter: Mom, I feel hopeless.
Mom: What you mean is you have worked very hard, and not reach the success yet.
Daughter: I hate that guy
Mom: What you mean is that guy makes you feel sort of disappointment.
Daughter: I hate myself
Mom: What you mean is you set a too high expectation on yourself.
Daughter: I do it wrong
Mom: What you mean is that you realize there is room for improvement.
Daughter: I want to quit
Mom: What you mean is you feel tired after hold on for long.
Daughter: Mom, this outfit is ugly
Mom: This outfit is not ugly. What you mean is you just dislike it.
3/31/2020 04:59:22 am
I think it is so important to arm children, at all ages, but especially teenagers with language and perspectives that are kind and respectful of others. You offer some excellent examples for parents to teach their teen tolerance and the power of words.
3/31/2020 06:00:21 am
Amazing tips! It's amazing how a short phrase has so much more meaning behind it. It's important to teach out kids to express themselves!
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