How To Turnaround From Defeat To Success?

What to do when you lose your job, suffer business failure, or suddenly your husband asks for a divorce? Susan is my friend.  Ten years before, she was 45 years old, had fallen from the top of a corporate ladder who struggled to survive from depression, bankruptcy, and divorce. What is her situation now?  She has her own business with seven figures in revenue.  How to turnaround from defeat to success?  She shared her insights that had helped me a lot. 

1. Celebrate It

On the day she got fired, she went to enjoy a perfect lunch in her most beloved restaurant.  Ever wonder you got fire was not a coincidence of bad luck but somewhat the job or the boss you’d disliked for a long time. Ironically, you might unaware you hated your bosses in your subconscious mind.  But they did aware of it more than you do.  Nothing worth looking back on except for learning to understand yourself.

The bad thing did happen.  Let's celebrate!  It can be a relief.  Boost up the energy to move on.

2. Appreciate Yourself

Don’t beat yourself up with the self-blame. Catch yourself on what you had done right, instead of what you had done wrong. In a few years before, when I got fired, I appreciated myself for what I had contributed to the company such as:

• Resolved the crisis when a big customer decided to cancel a big order
• Solved the stuck-up issue to conclude dealership with an important customer
• Acquired plenty of big customers 

Recognized and appreciated my strengths such as:

• I’m good at presentation to impress people
• I’ve strong creative power to connect the dots for ideas
• I’m a responsible and reliable person to get the work done

When you appreciate yourself, you build up your self-worth to make a solid ground with confidence. We connect with our inner power to remind ourselves that we can deal with all sorts of challenges.

3. Regard The Setback As Blessing

Every obstacle or setback is the gift arrange by God (or the universe) to teach us.  The same pattern would repeat until we have learned, finally.  Ever wonder when the student is ready, the teacher will find you (proverb). 
 
I got fired multiple times that urged me to re-examine the root cause. Most of the time, the question itself had hidden the answer.  The question I asked myself was: What bordering me most during my career life?

• It was the time when my boss blamed me;
• When my boss promoted my colleague instead of me;
• When I found out my co-worker made more money than me.

And then, I realized that my issue was jealousy and thirst for approval from the authority.  The core emotion was my fear of not being good enough. That was the reason why..

• I was panic when my boss lost his temper;
• I never recruited the subordinate who was smarter than me;
• I paid attention on making impressive reports to please my boss instead of doing the real work.

My core issue is about dealing with jealousy and low self-worth.  The learning is about self-love.

4. Daily Mantras

Motivate yourself through daily mantras. Your mind doesn’t know what your narrative is real or not. Very often, our brain is preoccupied with negativity from storing the memory of past failures.  We need to feed our minds with positive energy every day. 

My mantras are:

• Money comes to me effortlessly.
• Work like I don’t need money.
• Live like I’m in paradise.

When you say it, close your eye to feel it, to believe in it. You don’t get what you want.  You get what you feel.

Feel Good Mantras

5. Create Value

Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds you plant (Robert Louis Stevenson). How to plant the seeds? The answer is helping those people who want the same thing as you:

• If you want to make money, teach others how to make money
• If you want to sell your product, help others to sell their products
• If you want to increase your customer base, help others to build their customer base.

You might hear people tell you there are three ways to be successful:

1. Step over others to get power
2. Hard-working to do your job
3. Team up with others

The most effective way is to team up with others. Money follows joy. A joyful person is influential, spreading out the love and positive energy upon others. Good people attract good people to help each other.  The magic is the whole universe is conspired on your side to make your success.

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I’m where I should be.
Never too early nor too late.
Star and moon can shine when it’s their time.
 
Cheers.  Good Luck!