Women Blossom Blog
Women Blossom Blog
I am wondering a woman is not getting old gradually. A woman can get old at the speed of light suddenly when she gives up caring for her beauty. Keeping a slim-fit shape with optimum weight makes you look 5 to 10 years younger than your real age. What’s more, you look great as you are able to wear those beautiful clothing shinning with your feminine charm.
Why do women gain weight? What can we do about this?
Are you a career woman who is busy all day long? You are exhausted with long working hours without giving yourself a break. Day time fatigue causes you extremely hungry at night because you don’t eat enough during the day. High working pressure would trigger adrenaline rush and cortisol result in culminating fats in belly and waist.
Avoid eating a big meal and break down into several small meals throughout the day. Prepare some healthy snacks in between the meals such as fresh fruits to stave off hunger. The result is you eat less. Make your food choice wisely. Intake the food with high nutrition value with low calories such as vegetables and fruits. Most women addicted to high calorie with low nutrition values such as bread, chocolate, deep-fried meat or chips, or all the sweetie desserts.
Women who are lacking enough red blood cells tend to like eating high sugar or sweet food as sugar can boost up energy, but lead to fatigue as well. If you are craving sugar, it could mean your body is a deficiency in some main minerals and vitamins that cause your body to become acidic and culminate in fats as well.
Intake the food rich in vitamin B₁₂ such as clam, beef, rainbow trout, sockeye salmon, tuna fish can help. It plays an important role in the production of your red blood cells.
3. Liver health
If you get premenstrual syndrome or menstrual disorder, this may indicate you should care more for your liver health. Your liver health and increased levels of cortisol hormone affect your emotion, sometimes come with the dark spots on the face. These dark spots are not the common sparsely scatter spots. They are the spots that are darker in color like a splash instead and not easy to remove.
Eat beets or dandelion roots for the health of our liver. Intake the food rich in fatty acid and antioxidants such as grapes and pine bark extract with collagen help to adjust the hormones as well for smoother skin.
4. Sleep late
You may still browse the PC for entertainment or keep on working after midnight. Sleeping late at night is linked to increased levels of cortisol hormone, which is one of the major causes of weight gain
Sleep before 11 pm. Removing electronics (TV, computer, mobile phone) from the bedroom. The bedroom is for sleeping only.
My friend told me she should take 2 burgers before bed. No surprise it is an emotional overeating issue. Eating the carbs with high calorie tend to boost up serotonin which makes her feel better.
Seek help when you have an emotional problem. The problem may more than you can handle on your own. Never try to hide it or escape from it. Tell yourself you have to solve it by whatever methods. I get a feeling that if God gives us a lesson and if we don’t handle it, the same thing will loop to happen again until we learn.
Very often, I tell myself, I’m your mom, I am always right. At least, I think so. Aggression and fixation on disagreements intensify the conflict between each other in relationships. We rely on those closest to us for support, so did our child. We can accept critical words from those who are not close to us because we can believe they reflect a lack of knowledge about us rather than an actual flaw in us. Critical words from parents to their child cut deeply. The effective way of communication is changing the "no-no-no" model to the "yes-no-yes" model. What does the yes-no-yes model mean?
Yes => acknowledge the positive intention of the child
No=> disagreed with her/his behavior without judging and make clear your bottom-line.
Yes => make win-win suggestion or promise.
Imagine you are in the middle of preparing dinner. Your little daughter comes into the kitchen. She imitates what you’re doing for cooking, but she screws up the ingredients, and the food is dropping on the ground to cause the messy.
The “no-no-no” communication like this:
No => "I told you thousand times don’t play with the food. You cause the food wastage."
No => "I have to buy the food and prepare everything all over again"
No => "Get out from the kitchen NOW!"
The “yes-no-yes” communication like this:
Yes is for acknowledge the positive intention of the child
=> "I know you want to help mom preparing dinner"
No is for telling your bottom-line. Speak nicely, don’t judge, make the kid feels comfortable so that she would feel easier to accept your point.
=> "Many poor people don’t get food, don’t waste food"
Yes is for making suggestion or promise with win-win approach
=> "if you want to help mom, you directly tell me. I will teach you how to do it properly and we can make the dinner together. Got it?"
What is the magical thing that will brighten your day and the days of people around you? The answer is smiling. Your smile makes other people happy and makes you happy in return. You probably heard the body language would carry 55% of weight to impress the other person. Sad faces generated sad faces, and smiling faces evoked smiles and happiness. Bring the sunshine to your lover by your smiles. You are delivering a pleasant message to him that everything would be ok.
2. First Met
Have you ever felt tired in a relationship with those changes occur around the waistline of your partner, and marital tensions get bigger? You wonder he is not the man he was on the day you tied the knot, and you no longer enjoy looking his extra pound belly. And then let’s try to imagine you travel back in time when you first met him. Remind yourself of what attracted him to you in the first place. Do you remember the day you start talking with each other? Set up the romantic moment with him, have a candlelight dinner, end with a kiss like the first time all over again.
To make volunteering a family affair (or an affair with your hubby). Every community has countless opportunities for doing charity. Anything you can do will not only help others, and it will also help you. It would be great to spend meaningful time for making a positive difference in your community and do it with your partner. You will feel good about yourselves with a sense of purpose, feel appreciated, and give yourself to a good cause. When you give the other people love and attention, you are rewarded by getting a chance to see the beauty in yourself and your partner.
Let’s face it, women tend to have much stronger emotions, imaginations, and feelings than men. We are eager to share our stories, express what we are thinking and feeling by talking through it. Men, generally speaking, tend to be naturally wired to problem-solving when their partners want something simpler. Most of the time, a man responds to his wife’s emotions with a problem-solving approach. When he finds there is no problem requiring him to fix, he gets limited ability to know how to relate the issue. The man might regard his wife is annoying and resolve to escape. In my opinions…
Men tend to process their emotions inwardly. They don’t know exactly how they feel, so they try to figure it out on their own inside their head. When a man goes silent, he is just thinking. Don’t force him to talk. Leave him alone. He will come out of the cave, sooner or later.
Guys need praise as much as you do. Make your compliments to be clear and specific. The verbal praise that a man would love to hear is not something related to his masculine body. Tell him if you think he is a helpful partner to do the chores or tell him he is a caring father to play with the kids. The praises make him feel grateful. He would work even harder to prove he deserves your kind words.
7. Hero in Public
Believe it or not, men seek an exceptionally huge weight of respect and recognition from the other people. They express their assertiveness, unleash themselves, and like to demonstrate their capability to others by showing off they are very different. Don't pick out the one thing he did (or say) wrong when he is in public. He will hate you to make him look stupid and hurt his self-esteem.
Men desire freedom and space. They tend to involve their time in work, their toys, sports, or hanging out with the guys. While men likely desire more freedom, their partner would appeal to connection and love. What can you do about this? Never try to exert pressure, coercion, or influence upon a man. He chooses what is right for him. If you take a decision away from a man by being a pursuer, he will resent you, lose attraction for and escape from you. The magnetic attraction from the feminine energy is made man feels he can leave at any time, and he chooses to stay and commit.
One day, Jenny read a novel called “when the coffee got cold” in an old coffee shop. The novel relates you are able to return back to the time of your choice. No matter what you do, you can’t change what had happened. Your time in the past starts when your coffee has been poured and ends once the coffee has gone cold.
Jenny is thinking, under this condition, who does she want to talk to before the coffee gets cold?
Jenny thinks what if the time machine takes her to the future. The future of 5 years later. What will Vivian (her daughter) talk to her?
Time travel forward to 5 years later (Part 2 of the story)
Jenny and Vivian are inside the coffee shop, the soft light, and the calm music make them feel relax. The beautiful lyric from the old song swirling around:
People talking without speaking
People hearing without listening
People writing songs that voices never share
And no one dared
Disturb the sound of silence.
Jenny: Vivian, did you still hate me? On that day, you said you hate me.
Vivian: Did I say this? I was throwing my inner child at that time.
Mom, whatever you did to me are the gifts. They were gifts for helping me grow. I believed whatever you did to me was purely from love. And not all the things you did to me were suitable for my needs, sometimes they carried pressure and even hurt me. I believe if you know your expectations on me would hurt me so much, you would never do this to me.
Mom, I’m sorry I chose to care for my feeling only and neglect you had gone through a hard time to support the whole family alone. I’m sorry to judge you for the damaged relationship with dad and regard myself as a victim. Please forgive me I was not able to meet all your expectations based on your standards.
Mom, thank you for bringing me in this world
You know, my life is mine
I've got to love myself
I've got to live a meaningful life in my way
I've got to responsible for my needs
I'm no longer regard myself as a victim.
Your relationship with dad gives back to you.
I'll be here with you
I can only use my way to support you.
I am not able to support you by fulfilling your expectations on me.
I've got my value system
Whether you agree or disagree with my thinking.
I'm still me
I will listen to your opinion
And I might not follow
I would learn how to get along with you with a different opinion
Mom, we are two different individuals.
I am responsible for my life
I'll be happy from now on.
I promise I will plant my happiness to repay you
Mom, I love you. I always love you, and I will love you forever.
Thank you, Mom.
This is a guest post by Joyce Wilson. She is a retired teacher who enjoys sharing lesson plans, resources, and teaching tips on Teacher Spark.
With a new school year comes excitement, opportunity, and fun challenges; however, if your child suffers from anxiety, he or she may already fear the upcoming school year. New classes, people, and pressures are just some of the reasons children can feel anxious about starting another year of school. If you want to help guide your child during this difficult time, consider taking a few additional parenting steps.
Start a Dialogue
At times, it may be difficult to empathize with your child about his or her thoughts and fears; that being said, communicating with your child can significantly reduce anxiety. Start by taking a few deep breaths together to help calm your child down. Next, evaluate the situation to help you come up with some solutions to try. Inquire about what he or she thinks is the very worst thing that could happen. Maybe your child fears math class because it takes longer to learn certain topics. If this is the case, you can ask your child what he or she thinks is the worst thing that could happen if they do not understand a topic. After this, make some suggestions about how to remedy a particular situation. You could encourage your child to ask the teacher for help over lunchtime or offer to provide additional homework help after school. Once viable solutions are presented, you may notice a decrease in anxiety.
Make the Mornings Positive
Morning can be stressful for children. As soon as school-aged children wake-up, they have to think about countless academic, social, and physical tasks. Just thinking about everything that needs to be done can cause high levels of anxiety and stress. If you find your child is highly anxious in the mornings, be sure to make mornings as positive as possible. To do this, consider creating a stress-free morning. For example, you could help your child organize his or her belongings the evening before school and keep an eye out for anything they might be forgetting. You can also reduce stress by preparing a healthy breakfast and packing something special for lunch. Lastly, try not to place additional demands on your child before school; for example, do not make mornings a time for chores or homework.
Prioritize Nutrition with Multivitamins
Nutrition plays a key role in mental health. For example, zinc, which is found in nuts, whole grains, and legumes, can help reduce anxiety. As important as it is to eat a nutritious diet, however, it isn’t always easy to meet the daily nutrition requirements from food alone. That’s why you should encourage your child to take a multivitamin. Not only will it give your child the nutrients they need every day, it will also help to strengthen their immune system. Make sure you choose a multivitamin that includes probiotics, in order to support your child’s gut health as well.
Offer Organizational Help
Children with anxiety are more likely to be disorganized and forgetful. Not only are they more prone to disorganization, they are also more likely to internalize their lack of organization as a personal flaw. If you want to help your child get organized, consider investing in a few key items (binders, dividers, day planners, etc). Encourage your child to write down his/her homework tasks as well as other extracurricular commitments. Some parents find it helpful to have a large family calendar to help children keep track of what needs to be done.
Invest in Learning Tools
You might also consider investing in some solid back-to-school gear specific to your child’s unique needs. A good pair of headphones is often one of the best investments you can make. Younger children are often required to do online exercises and games as part of their learning curriculum, and a great headset can facilitate maximum learning. If you have an older child, headphones can help make homework fun and enjoyable. Music also has the power to reduce anxiety by facilitating relaxation.
Back-to-school should be exciting, not overwhelming. If your child suffers from anxiety, consider taking a few extra steps to ensure their school year is off to a great start. Starting a dialogue, making mornings enjoyable, encouraging multivitamins, offering organizational help, and investing in quality learning tools can make this September the best one yet. Best of luck in the school year!
Article by Joyce Wilson
I read a piece of news to tell that a kid had called police numerous times a day reporting a fake crime. Why the boy did that stupid thing? The policeman realized that the boy was too lonely.He bought the boy a toy trying to stop the boy called him again. In fact, the boy needs a friend more than a toy.
Snoopy is glad to have Woodstock as best friend.
Piglet feels lucky to have Winnie the Pooh as forever friend.
"We will be friends forever, won’t we, Pooh?" asked Piglet
"Even longer”, Pooh answered
Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind.
"Pooh!" he whispered
"Nothing”, said Piglet, taking Pooh’s paw. "I just wanted to be sure of you.”
(A.A. Milne, The House at Pooh Corner)
We need to feel that we are a part of something bigger, that we care about others and the others care for us in return. Help the kids to take advantage of opportunities at school or among neighbors to expand their friendship base.
Choose the friend wisely
We are well aware that the company your kid keeps does have a negative or positive impact on him or her. One day, Susan asked her mother how to choose friends wisely.
Mommy, what is the meaning of friendship? How to choose friends wisely?
In a party, some laugh at you, some laugh with you. But in the end, after the fun, the one who stays to help you clean up the mess is your friend. And most of the time, she is not the one to make the mess.
Hey girl, did you make new friends in school?
Sandy is my new best friend. She is my classmate.
She never forgot to get me a souvenir from her vacation tour.
Willing to share the food with me
Wait for me even if I was far too late
Allow me to play her for a fool.
Sandy treats you as friend. Always remember be nice to other people. Things change, people change, connection stay.
2. Wonderful people right here
The kids might get plenty of friends via the medium of social media. There might be wonderful people out there but beware don't take appearance for facts. . Why not take the opportunity to get to know the people right here? Someone is near and close to them.
I love this story:
“Andy fell into conversation with one particular person during his computer journey and soon found that they had much in common and thoroughly enjoyed conversing with each other. Weeks later, during a computer conversation with this new friend, Andy house lost electrical power, shutting down his computer and cutting off his link to his friend. When the electricity came back on, Andy searched from his friend only to find that the friend, at the very same time, had also been cut off because of electrical outage. When the electricity went off on the street, it went off both of their houses, which were just doors away from each other.”
3. Thanks for the bad guys
There are good guys and bad guys in any screenplays. So do people surround us are friends or hatred guys. Those hatred guys may be our boss, our neighbor or co-workers. We can’t escape to deal with them. But It would be hard for the kid to deal with evil peers without parent support and guidance.
The kids might encounter the evil peers who are:
Ambitious, throwing tantrum, love to fight
Complaint all the time
Dramatic, love to show off or stealing the show
Self-center, neglect other people feeling
The kids have to learn that no one has the liability should treat them nicely (only parents can give them unconditional love). What you think become the words you say. It is the emotion behind the behavior. The emotion behind angry may because you worry you are not able to do anything to change the distasteful situation. Take the opportunity to understand the emotion help to transfer the negative energy to a positive one. It is not easy. It takes effort.
We believe we get a map to guide our kids. It is a set of step-by-step instructions on how to get from the time when he or she was born to a happy ending. What if we’ve got a wrong map?
One day, Jenny read a novel called “when the coffee got cold”. The story relates you are able to return back to the time of your choice. No matter what you do, you can’t change what had happened. Your time in the past starts when your coffee has been poured and ends once the coffee has gone cold.
Jenny is thinking, under this condition, who does she want to talk to before the coffee gets cold?
Time travel back to 2 years before..
On that day, right here in the dining room. Jenny was sipping a cup of hot coffee, reading a book. She saw her 25 years old daughter, Vivian, carried a backpack, and sat down beside her.
I had bought an air ticket. The flight will depart 5 hours later.
You go to where? For how long?
I go to Paris with Jack, and we will settle down in there for our hair dressing career….
Jenny was furious:
You go with that jerk?! Alright!! Thank you for your notification 5 hours before the flight departure! You know what? You are on the path of destruction…. You’re damn wrong to make this terrible mistake!!
Jenny felt angry, desperate, unappreciated because she had made so much sacrifice to this family but nobody thanks her for it. She couldn't stand to ask Vivian to stay and raised the subject of a disagreement with anger and aggression.
“I don’t want to see you in the rest of my life. Get out from here. Now!” Jenny said.
Mom, you know what? I hate you.
They don’t talk to each other from that day.
A cup of hot coffee has been poured. Time machine brings Jenny back on that day. She can stay there until the coffee has gone cold. What would she want to talk to Vivian?
Why you do this to me? Why Jack?
Mom, I have no friends and feel difficult to get along with other people. Jack loves me. He cares for me. I know you would never proud of me. I never would be the person you like.
What makes you think that way?
I failed twice before I was able to get into a university you wanted me to enroll. However, I got finally dropped out of school. You introduced me to your friends this way: “Vivian is a hairdresser, her sister is a banker, though.” Why do you have to focus on my occupation and then say it in a way that makes it sound like you disappointed in my work?
I have no idea. I'm proud of you both. I didn’t intend to make it seemed that your occupation was what matters to me.
Before the coffee gets cold, Jenny comes back to the present time.
Jenny was not able to change what had happened after the time travel journey. Vivian left her on that day to Paris with Jack. The event hadn’t changed, but her thinking had changed, her perspective towards what had happened had changed.
She types the messages on the whatsapp to talk with Vivian:
From that day, they can freely communicate their concerns and needs to each other.
Jenny thinks what if the time machine takes her to the future. The future of 5 years later. What will Vivian talk to her? Go to Part 2
One day, I asked my kid the result of his school test as I was curious about why the teacher took so long to give marks. She repeatedly told me that she hadn’t obtained the test result yet. I doubted she was intentionally hiding something. And then I found out she lied to me. She confessed telling me that she worried I would no longer love her because he failed the test. How come she gets the idea that my love for her has the condition?
Children need continuous flow of love
Children need love like the flower need water. The parents matter most to them to be their whole world. They thirst for your full attention and affection to ensure you love them more than anyone else.
When my child was 5 years old…
When she came back home from school, she couldn’t wait to call and find mommy. Mommy was the first person she wanted to see at home.
Whenever I was reading books or sat on the couch watching TV, she felt perfectly happy and secured to sit beside me doing nothing.
If someone bullied against her, she would upset and told me "John beat me" or "Susan was yelling at me", or "Peter was bad". I was her protector, liked a big tree to protect her from the storm and rain.
When she felt she did something great, she couldn’t wait to show me her work and shared her joy of achievement. She was looking for my appreciation.
The child might non-stop talking about whatever happened to her in school. She was trying to tell she trusted me because she regarded me as her biggest supporter and pacifier.
Don’t put your job ahead your family
The greatest gift you can give your loved ones is your time. Make time for the ones you love. If you don’t prioritize your life, someone else will. If you want a career, you have to sacrifice family time? If you want a family life, you have to sacrifice your career? In fact, your children are not the distraction of important work. They are the important work. If you’re a career mom and the nine-to-five, Monday to Friday grind not work for you. You may talk to your boss about a flexible schedule, reduce your hours to a part-time job. Don't put your job ahead your family.
Wall scribbling from the toddler is one of the things that drive me crazy. Breath in, breath out, and calm down. How would you respond to wall scribbling from your toddler?
Suggest anything that is working for you..
Happiness is a laughing matter. Don’t you think that we all born with the membrane of happiness? Babies start smiling and laughing after a couple of months they come to this world, their feet kick, hands clasp. They use their body language attempting to tell everyone how much they are excited to feel the joy of happiness in this world. When you watch children running around the playground, you will think they are having so much fun. Children run around and play as if by instinct. Sometimes the children know better than we do about the pursuit for happiness. The research told us that a child laughs 200 times per day as an average because the children get no cap on their curiosity to explore, whatever they see is interesting. They express their love in the most direct evangelist form.
When time goes by, their hearts began to harden up to deal with the world that is too loud, too fast, too bright, and too cruel to bear. Parents, teachers, and peers formulate some conditioning to tell the kid who he is supposed to be, act and think like, in order to get what he wants. The kid might think whatever he is doing can never reach the parent’s expectation. The connection between his true self and the ego-self is broken. If a person has the heart of a child, he would smile a lot more, cry less, and laugh harder. Let the kid keeps his child heart from his early years until his twilight years.
How to spend time with your kid enjoying a good laugh from our days?
1. Shake the track of routine
Traveling is a great way to make the routine a shake. Let’s go somewhere. Pack the things, go travel. There is no place that the kid isn’t curious to explore, no food that he isn’t determined to try, no cap on his curiosity and no ceiling. How many worlds would the kid make up in his head? Every trip liked an Easter egg-riddled journey. He would be so excited when you try to bring his curriculum alive through a trip to a place he is studying. What are inside the jar of memories from traveling? It might be the experience to stay in a tree house, enjoyed the sunlight through the tangle of green limbs swaddled the tree house like a living hammock. The memories must be the adventure occupied by laughing, inclusiveness, and a big heart.
2. Allow yourself some time to laugh, to be silly, with your kid.
Children have a full-time occupation. It calls playing! When your child asks you to play with him, you might say, I don’t have time for that. Adults have responsibilities, we are serious. What if play with the kid, right now, this minute.
I think to have a little fun, a time for pure silliness and happiness with your kid is an essential part of every day.
3. Find humor in a difficult situation, you win.
I have heard a story like that:
John was a famous artist. One day, a car hit him just as he turned around. The careless driver got out of the car and checked whether John got hurt or not. John said, “Oh, you are bad luck. If you killed me by this accident, your name could appear on the news headline!”
There is no objective way to tell you if you have a good day or a good hour. Your life is a success based only upon your judgment. It is not what happened, it is how you think about what happened. The same event can be seen positively, or it can be seen negatively. It depends upon your perspective. The ability to find humor in a difficult situation is a character to see the world through a positive lens, and subconsciously tell the mind that everything is ok. Positive energy is contagious. It did help the kid to build up a positive attitude to go through a hard time.
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