The Game Can Help To Make The Difficult Child From Resistant to Resilient.

How to upset a mom in less than 5 seconds? It's when someone tries to tell you how to raise your child. Well, yes, it is oversimplified to explain the child's misconduct is either the result of the parental problem or wholly caused by the child genre.  Some children have resistant behavior like my 5-year old boy.  He doesn't care about anything I tell him to do.  For instances, when I try to force a macrobiotic diet on him, he sees no reason why he has to give up his innocent comforting desire to eat candies.  Children like playing games. I had read the "points system" game from a book and tried to play this game with him. The result is encouraging.

The game applied to the kid age between 4 to 7 years old. Every positive performance of the kid will give a token to record the points. The child redeems the gift as a reward according to the number of tokens had been collected.

Steps:

1. Get a box of tokens with different colors. Mark the points on the tokens.  If the child is small, all tokens mark the same point.  If he is 6 to 8 years old, different colors of the tokens have different points. For example: The white color token represents 1 point, the red color token represents 2 points, and the blue color token represents 3 points.
2. Tell the child he is doing great and you want to reward him more. This game is a fun way to create a system of guideline for offering the rewards.
3. Find a box for tokens storage.  You and the kid try to decorate the box together to add the fun.
4. Make a list of rewards with the child together. The list should include both the normal and special items. The number of items should be around 10 to 15. The redemption list should include something normal and something special.  The items in the redemption list such as the following :

• Go to watch movie
• Go to skiing
• Visit the friend who is living far away
• Ride the bike
• Play video game
• Buy special toys

    5. Make a list with the child together for the "things-to-do" items such as

• Set up the table for dinner
• Tidy up the table
• Tidy up the toys
• Brush the teeth before sleep at night
• Go to bed on time
• Get up on time
• Dress up on his/her own
  

6.  Define each item from the "things-to-do" list is carrying how many points. The child obtains more points for the difficult task and fewer points for the easy task. 

7.  The score tokens would put into that storage box.

8.  Allow the child to redeem the rewards in the weekly base or monthly base.

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