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Emotion is the energy of the pendulum between negative and positive channels. It is up to you to choose positive energy or negative energy. The bad news is the negative channel always wins. Why? Our emotions get the irrational intensity to feel bad even for a small loss or threatened loss (of property, love, belonging, opportunity, status, and so on). Loss is twice more powerful to affect our emotions than gain. Hence, we tend to amplify the losses with deep emotions. What is your choice? Fall into the drama triangle and spiral downwards, or transform pain into love and believe it will return in another form. 1. Victim perspective (poor me)Jenny quit her career to raise the kid. She feels angry, desperate, unappreciated because she had made so much sacrifice to this family but nobody thanks her for it. When the kid is not listening to her, she feels as though she has been rejected and disrespected. She throws a tantrum to make the kid feels sorry for not cooperating. Or say, 'I worked so hard and I am alone now, you guys are so ungrateful.' The wrong answer: hell is other people The better answer: Taking full responsibility for everything in my life Self-talk for inner peace:
2. Rescuer perspective (wanting to fix)Amy believes she gets a map to guide her son. She jumped out fast to help him solve problems. When her grown child asks for financial help to pay for his living expenses and graduate school tuition, she helps pay for everything at all. The wrong answer: You need me The better answer: You need grow Self-talk for inner peace:
3. Persecutor perspective (blaming and finding false)A persecutor has a tendency to blame and criticize others when things do not work out the way they anticipated. They attempt to pinpoint problems and directing others as the primary cause of those problems. A persecutor uses these common phrases to justify their act:
The wrong answer: I have all the answers The better answer: I could be all wrong. Self-talk for inner peace: What if I’m wrong? Yes, I will. Indeed. Human cognition of things is incomplete and flawed, so we are inevitably easy to make mistakes. We attempt to do all the right things. The fact is we can’t realize what are the right things only after many wrong things had done. Respect there’s a chance the other people to work on their filers, their habits and their instincts. A rock climber doesn’t see a steep slope the same way an elderly person does. In fact, there are many things where right or wrong are relative, perhaps merely based on perspective.
It is only one piece of the puzzle.
Do you want to see the whole picture? Do you want to transform your pain into love by understanding your emotions? Explore the secrets to mastering your destiny through the three laws of the Universe, four strategies, and five-day challenges.
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