Beware! Vicious Drama Triangle. How can one effectively respond to the drama triangle and move from a place of pain to love?

Emotion is the energy of the pendulum between negative and positive channels. It is up to you to choose positive energy or negative energy.
 
The bad news is the negative channel always wins. Why?
 
Our emotions get the irrational intensity to feel bad even for a small loss or threatened loss (of property, love, belonging, opportunity, status, and so on). Loss is twice more powerful to affect our emotions than gain. Hence, we tend to amplify the losses with deep emotions.
 
What is your choice?
 
Fall into the drama triangle and spiral downwards, or transform pain into love and believe it will return in another form.

1. ​Victim perspective (poor me)

Jenny quit her career to raise the kid.  She feels angry, desperate, unappreciated because she had made so much sacrifice to this family but nobody thanks her for it.  When the kid is not listening to her, she feels as though she has been rejected and disrespected.  She throws a tantrum to make the kid feels sorry for not cooperating.  Or say, 'I worked so hard and I am alone now, you guys are so ungrateful.'
 
The wrong answer: hell is other people
The better answer: Taking full responsibility for everything in my life
 
Self-talk for inner peace:

• I always have a choice
• I’m a creator of solving the problem
• I’m where I should be because everything that happens is just right.

​2. Rescuer perspective (wanting to fix)

Amy believes she gets a map to guide her son. She jumped out fast to help him solve problems.  When her grown child asks for financial help to pay for his living expenses and graduate school tuition, she helps pay for everything at all.
 
The wrong answer:  You need me
The better answer: You need grow
 
Self-talk for inner peace:

• I’m a caring supporter with a healthy boundary.
• Never expect I can change anyone. 
• Give back the responsibilities to them. No one belongs to me.

​3. Persecutor perspective (blaming and finding false)

​A persecutor has a tendency to blame and criticize others when things do not work out the way they anticipated. They attempt to pinpoint problems and directing others as the primary cause of those problems.   A persecutor uses these common phrases to justify their act:

• I did not expect this from you
• I should have known better
• I should have never trusted you
• You did not do your job and now I have to suffer
• If only you would have done what I told you

 
The wrong answer: I have all the answers
The better answer: I could be all wrong.
 
Self-talk for inner peace:
What if I’m wrong?  Yes, I will.  Indeed.
Human cognition of things is incomplete and flawed, so we are inevitably easy to make mistakes.  We attempt to do all the right things.   The fact is we can’t realize what are the right things only after many wrong things had done. Respect there’s a chance the other people to work on their filers, their habits and their instincts.  A rock climber doesn’t see a steep slope the same way an elderly person does.  In fact, there are many things where right or wrong are relative, perhaps merely based on perspective.

• Forgive that the world is imperfect.
• Forgive people are imperfect.
• Forgive I’m imperfect.
• Forgive I could be all wrong. 

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