Alice came to a fork in a road.  “Which road do I take?” she asked.
“Where do you want to go?” respond the cheshire cat.
“I don’t know”, Alice answered. “Then”, said the cat, “it doesn’t matter.”
(Alice in the Wonderland)
 
Imagine being a ship captain without knowledge of weather, sea, navigation, ship function, and control. It would be like playing the lottery, hoping to be the winner but unlikely to be you.
 
You don’t want to be that naïve captain.

What is your clarity for  direction driving to  happiness?

Financial difficulties are common and easily trigger negative emotions (like anger, anxiety, agitation, and fear).  What if you’re broke? You fear you will lose your house, your self-respect, and everything.
 
How much money can I earn? 
How big is my bank account?
 
While unemployed, I became obsessed with the stock market for quick money.  As a result, I lost plenty of money.  I was greedy, thirsted for money, and feared losing money.  My poverty mentality made me regret every decision to buy and sell the stock at the wrong price.
 
One day, I bought a stock in the stock market, and its price rose by 10%. To secure a profit, I sold all of my stock quantity. However, the stock price continued to go up crazy. My husband blamed me for my impulsive decision, and we quarreled over it. This incident was a half-glass water story that happened in real life. I wondered why I was so angry about it. After all, I didn't suffer any monetary loss but just earned less.​

Did I angry with my hubby to blame me?
Did I angry with myself to make the stupid decision?
 
When I gained less, I felt upset (due to greediness)
When I suffer lost, I was angry (due to self-blame)
 
However, how unlikely I could always pick the perfect stock, buy at the bottom cost, sell at the ceiling price, and optimize the profit. Thus, I would always be overwhelmed with fear, anxiety, and anger to play this game.​

Ever wonder if what goes around will come around? The negative energy (greed, fear, and self-blame) that goes around will come around.  I realized something was wrong.  Gambling out of fear and greed will never solve the money problem.  The starting point was to change the mindset.

And then, I realized I had to change.

Reprogram the subconscious mind from poverty mentality to abundance mentality.
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Poverty thinking:
Opportunities are limited,
Things will never work out
Wealth is beyond my reach
even what I have now can be taken from me at any moment
 
Abundance thinking:
I deserve abundance
I am prosperous and have plenty
I am the magnet of abundance
I welcome and accept the abundance of wealth flowing into my life effortlessly, joyfully, and happily.

​Keep moving and keep learning.
Success requires persistence and repetition to master a skill.
Always remember that failure is a stepping stone to success.
What is working?
What is not working?
What can I do differently to make me do a better job next time?
Never use compare-and-contrast of this very moment to define the win or loss.
Always remember that today is not the goal.

I continue to have an interest in trading in the stock market.  But I do it differently.  The good news is I make a profit for almost every trade.

1. Always practice the abundance mentality
2. Make it simple to focus on only two or three familiar stocks (P/E, business, up and down point).
3. Buy the stock when it is moving on a downward slope.
4. When I suffer loss, regard it as a challenge, keep calm. It is a challenge to learn:

​            - Responding instead of reacting
            - Leading instead of responding

It is only one piece of the puzzle.  
Do you want to see the whole picture? 
Do you want to transform your pain into love by understanding your emotions?  Explore the secrets to mastering your destiny through the three laws of the Universe, four strategies, and five-day challenges.

Jenny quit her career to raise the kid.  She feels angry, desperate, unappreciated because she had made so much sacrifice to this family but nobody thanks her for it.  When the kid is not listening to her, she feels as though she has been rejected and disrespected.  She throws a tantrum to make the kid feels sorry for not cooperating.  Or say, 'I worked so hard and I am alone now, you guys are so ungrateful.'
 
The wrong answer: hell is other people
The better answer: Taking full responsibility for everything in my life
 
Self-talk for inner peace:

• I always have a choice
• I’m a creator of solving the problem
• I’m where I should be because everything that happens is just right.

Amy believes she gets a map to guide her son. She jumped out fast to help him solve problems.  When her grown child asks for financial help to pay for his living expenses and graduate school tuition, she helps pay for everything at all.
 
The wrong answer:  You need me
The better answer: You need grow
 
Self-talk for inner peace:

• I’m a caring supporter with a healthy boundary.
• Never expect I can change anyone. 
• Give back the responsibilities to them. No one belongs to me.

​A persecutor has a tendency to blame and criticize others when things do not work out the way they anticipated. They attempt to pinpoint problems and directing others as the primary cause of those problems.   A persecutor uses these common phrases to justify their act:

• I did not expect this from you
• I should have known better
• I should have never trusted you
• You did not do your job and now I have to suffer
• If only you would have done what I told you

 
The wrong answer: I have all the answers
The better answer: I could be all wrong.
 
Self-talk for inner peace:
What if I’m wrong?  Yes, I will.  Indeed.
Human cognition of things is incomplete and flawed, so we are inevitably easy to make mistakes.  We attempt to do all the right things.   The fact is we can’t realize what are the right things only after many wrong things had done. Respect there’s a chance the other people to work on their filers, their habits and their instincts.  A rock climber doesn’t see a steep slope the same way an elderly person does.  In fact, there are many things where right or wrong are relative, perhaps merely based on perspective.

• Forgive that the world is imperfect.
• Forgive people are imperfect.
• Forgive I’m imperfect.
• Forgive I could be all wrong. 

It is only one piece of the puzzle.  
Do you want to see the whole picture? 
Do you want to transform your pain into love by understanding your emotions?  Explore the secrets to mastering your destiny through the three laws of the Universe, four strategies, and five-day challenges.