Communication Series: How to Release Communication Tension with The Achiever?

What does an achiever want to focus on others that provoke conflicts? How to release the communication tension?
 
By using an enneagram as a tool, observing the finding from my experience with the real stories, that help me to come up with the insights that work for me to build great relationships with others.
 
The Achiever (Enneagram / #3. The Achiever)

The Character
John is a sales manager, target-oriented, and he plays to win. Quality is not the point. He cares more about closing deals and meeting quota.
 
David would complete all his homework on time, do all the studying, and perform very well in testing and examinations in school.  He doesn’t need his mother or teacher to push him to study.   He will figure out his schedule and determine to complete everything on schedule.
 
Ada graduated from a famous university and climbed fast on the corporate ladder to become the director of a big company.  She likes to dress smartly for work, is good at social skills, and knows how to catch the attention of the top management.
 
The achiever is the shining star on the stage.
They seek authority approval, enjoy the spotlight, and play to win.
 
They combine the flavor of charming, practical, and supreme confidence.
 
Worldview and the Drive
 
They want to win.
The drive is completing tasks and getting the work done.
 
They want to be affirmed, to distinguish themselves from others, to have attention, and to be admired by others.   There is that sense of playing their role as an inner worth through achievements.   Positively speaking, they carry all the positive traits such as charming, ambitious, competent, and energetic that drive them to produce remarkable achievements.
 
They are good at handling problems with positive ideas to speed up the work done.
 
 Communication Tension
 
As they want to win, they tend to focus on removing the weak link.
 
While you are running by the heel, they are running by the toes.  They are working fast and impatiently.  As winning is the point, they tend to appear selfish, practical, lacking compassion, empathy, or concern for others.    
 
Ada is an achiever who cares more about the company's benefit at the expense of the customer's benefits.  Achieving the sales target is her task which supposes why she is here.  She is an aggressive person to raise different conflicts with her colleagues.
 
From her perspective point of view, other people are
Not working hard enough
Not fast enough
Not smart enough
Not good enough
 
What will you feel if you work with her?

Stay tuned to the upcoming part 2.