How to be proud of yourself?

​The answer is, to be honest with yourself. It sounds simple but not easy.
Someone asked you to change your cooking menu, and you accepted.
Your friend begged you to drive her to the supermarket even if you were busy, and you did so.
Someone asked you to follow his way, and you agreed.
 
You hated to say yes, but you settled because of
Convenience;
Stop the conflicts or disputes;
Avoid the troubles;
Fear of authority;
Fear of someone unhappy.
 
When you decide to settle, you regard yourself as a victim, as if you are in prison with no choice. You feel upset because you are not proud of yourself for what you have done.
Unless you’re in prison, you don’t have to do anything. You choose to do things.  Let's use what we do for our laundry as an example:
Do you like to do the laundry? No. 
Is anyone forcing you to do the laundry? No. 
Doing the laundry is a choice you make because you value being clean.  You do the laundry for your family members because you love them. When you see all the options you have, you can appreciate the choices you make.
You can already guess the point is to make appropriate trade-offs by optimizing your choice.  Honest to yourself.  Take responsibility for your choice, and you will feel good about yourself.