How to Overcome the Emotional Suffering from the Failure?

​Three years before, my boss fired me after my 5-years tenure.  At that time, I felt shocked, angry, and depressed.  Rationally, I was well aware of move-on to focus on tomorrow and let go of the failure that happened in the past.  However, I couldn’t overcome emotional suffering from that failure as the negative feelings of anger, shame, and sorrow in my heart affected my mental and emotional well-being.  I got help from my mentor by honestly scrutinizing my feelings on that issue and asking myself three questions:

Q.1 ​What did I do right?

My boss was dissatisfied with me for not being willing to work overtime.  She regarded working overtime as a sign of commitment and dedication.  I prioritized my schedule to spend time with my family.  Relationships with my husband and with my mom are my top priority.  My mom suffered a stroke last year and never could live the same life as before.  I did the right thing to spend time with my mom when she lived well with good memory.  I did the right thing by not allowing someone else to prioritize my schedule.   

Q.2 ​What else could be better than that?

​I recognized to walk away from a corporate job to realize my dream by building my own online business was far more interesting for persuading my talent and skills.  

Q3. ​ What had I learned?

I learned to recognize my weakness to become a better person and achieve my career goal.

At that time, while presuming I was a marketing expert, I never dug into the product knowledge in-dept.  I almost always settled for convenience, not studying the product in-depth for what I was selling.  You can’t create value without proficiency in your particular profession.  I couldn’t deny that I was lazy to waste my time not taking action.  Action is critical for success.  Learning the problem is not enough.  I have to apply it, edit and fine-tune it.  

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​We have to learn to accept the things we cannot change (something like what had already happened yesterday).  Let it go.  The courage to change things for better tomorrow is more important.  

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference – quoted from Reinhold Niebuhr

​The issue was no longer a failure.  It was a stepping stone pathing my way to growth and success.