It's Not What Happened, It's How You Think About What Happened.

​One day, I read a book called "When Coffee Got Cold". The story related you were able to return to the time of your choice. No matter what you did, you won't change what had happened. You started the time travel when your coffee had been poured and ended once the coffee turned cold.
 
I wonder, under this condition, who do you want to talk to before the coffee gets cold?  What is the meaning of this time travel if you couldn't change what had happened?

​Amy was in deep sorrow because her beloved mom had passed away suddenly due to a fatal accident.  She had drowned in the swamp of sadness to the verge of depression.  Father from the church solace to tell her: this would pass.  Amy thought she had lost her mom forever and her beloved mom would not be with her anymore.  How could this pass?
 
The event that had happened was indeed a reality. The fact would not change. However, the emotions that carried with the event would pass. Remember that negative emotions are not your true self. You vent your emotion is okay and it is only a state of feeling under this specific time. You don’t need to hold it tightly because the more your resist, persist. Imagine when you did undergo a typhoon swept over. You would never try to catch holding it, aren’t you? Because you know it comes and goes.
 
When the negative emotion gets passed, Amy is aware emotion is a gift sent to her from God. It comes to remind her of re-examining her expectations in life.  Very often, we presume what should happen in our roadmap with expectations.  If what we anticipate doesn’t come true, we become frustrated.  We never know the value of the moments until it becomes a memory. It’s a gift to tell herself to stay present. Look at what’s in front of her.
 
Amy understood it was not a punishment to hurt her and it was a gift to help her instead. 
 
The event couldn’t change, but your perspective towards what had happened could change.
 
I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination – Jimmy Dean
 
Ever heard the proverb as follows:
​If you can't move a mountain, build a road around it.
If that road can't drive to your destination, change to another path.