Joy of Marriage. Tips to Resolve Conflicts In A Relationship (Difference between Men and Women)

​For a man, what is the hardest thing for him to say?
I'm sorry, I'm wrong.
 
The hardest thing is not admitting you are wrong but apologizing without reason.
 
Man, if you have learned to apologize for no reason, you are ready to get married. The woman expects her husband to apologize after a fight to show that he cares more about her than the issue itself.
 
Men and women are beautifully different but made for each other, just like the beauty where water and rocks come together. How can the Earth and Mars get along with each other?

1. ​Feminine Tenderness

Ever wonder if toughness is a praising word for women? 
The name of the game is: I don’t need you.

She wants to conquer men, conquer the business, and conquer everything because she plays to win.   When she took the lead in the business battle to win the deal, she was so good at maneuvering the tactics and strategy far better than what you can read in the war book. 
However, she was frustrated to realize she still needed a man.

In fact, she didn’t mean to upset anyone.
She stands for her point with confidence.  In return, she expects her partner to agree with her idea and the support she had from him.  She has no idea she carries the bossy role at home until her husband asks her three questions:

• What’s your very act of asking me to do something?
• What’s your response to me when you think something goes wrong?
• Who’s the one to mention divorce first during a fight?

However, men yearn for women to love them tender from our feminine nature. They might recall the tender feeling from the memories with their moms and sisters. My friend told me his wife was tough, and he doubted whether he had married a man, not a woman.

2. ​Same Expression for Different Meaning

​A woman can’t stop yapping about this and that. She is loud. Maybe she is angry. She is ok because she merely vents her negative emotions.
 However, when she goes silent, she is not ok. She is upset with negative emotions.
 
 When a man feels unpleasant, he can't keep his mouth shut. He is in the fighting mode, or he may want to beat someone. When he goes silent, he is ok. He is just thinking.
 
 When your wife goes silent, apologize to her.
 When she is non-stop blah blah blah, let her talk.
 When your husband goes silent, never force him to talk.
 When he refuses to shut up, hug him.

3. ​Emotional needs

​Women tend to have much stronger emotions, imaginations, and feelings than men.  They love to share their stories and express their thoughts and feelings by talking through them. 
Men, generally speaking, tend to be naturally wired to problem-solving when their partners want something simple.  When he finds no problem requiring him to fix, he has no idea how to relate the issue and tries to escape instead. 
 
Therefore,

• Never expect a man to know how to handle all your emotional needs. Find your girlfriends to talk over to solace your emotional needs.
• When you like to talk about any stories with a man, ask him whether he wants to listen in the first place. And you have to make your story short.​

4. Praise

​Guys need praise as much as you do.  Make your compliments to be clear and specific.  The verbal praise that a man would love to hear is not something related to his masculine body.  Tell him if you think he is a helpful partner to do the chores or tell him he is a caring father to play with the kids.  The praises make him feel grateful.  He would work even harder to prove he deserves your kind words.

5. ​Hero in public

​It's important to understand that many men crave respect and recognition from others.  Men often assert themselves and like to showcase their abilities to stand out.  Never expose his mistakes or point out what he did wrong in public, as this can damage his self-esteem and make him feel foolish.

6. Freedom

Men desire freedom and space.
They tend to spend their time in work, toys, sports, or hanging out with other guys.  While men desire more freedom, their partners would appeal to connection and love. 

What can you do about this?
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Never try to exert pressure, coercion, or influence upon a man.  He chooses to do the right thing for him.  If you take a decision away from a man by being a pursuer, he will resent you, lose attraction to and escape from you.  A magnetic attraction of a woman is her ability to make a man feel he can leave at any time, and he chooses to stay and commit.