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The Killer Strategies that Help Me to Deal With Difficult people. This Month's Series Is About Communication (#2. Handle difficult people)
There will be stimuli from the other’s words and behavior that make you angry, sad, or resentful. Someone is offensive, finger-pointing, and harassing you. You may think: What’s wrong with you?
Controllable vs. Uncontrollable
Your thinking in your mind is controllable.
The thinking in the mind of the other person is uncontrollable.
The tragedy is when you happen to do the reverse.
The reverse is when you are trying to control the uncontrollable thing (change the other people thinking); and not willing to change for what you can control (your thinking).
Relationship with others
Never be serious about the abrasive manner of others because you never know:
About their perspective to interpret what happens;
About their psychological projection;
About their moods.
All the above are none of your business. Give back other people's responsibility for themselves for handling their problems.
Ever heard a proverb:
There are only three businesses in life.
My business (well, yes, we can control our business)
Your business (we cannot control other people’s business)
God's business (God has a plan for us, we can only obey and accept, of course.)
Focus on your own business. Focus on what matters.
Do your thing. Don’t waste your energy trying to change opinions. Remember that you are not the other people’s opinion.
Feel good about yourself through self-affirmation (check with Louise Hay's you-tube channels) as a firewall against an adversary.
Handle adversary with empathy and respect. Don’t judge, condemn or criticize.
Avoid creating the drama triangle. Do not drag yourself into the drama triangle of others as well. And then, you get the inner tranquility, peace and calm to get along with others.
That is easier said than done. This work for me. I hope this can work for you.
Relationship with yourself
The most important relationship is the one you have with yourself.
You are the only person who can tell whether you are happy at this moment, right now.
In case of your current pattern drives you to where you seek to go, congratulation.
Or does your current pattern create emotional grief with the discrepancy between what people see of you on the outside and what you are experiencing on the inside?
If so, you are unaware that you are the problem.
The problem is that you have a particular lesson to learn, and you haven’t learned yet.
Once you change your perspective, you will change your feeling, thinking, and words.
How to completely change the repeated pattern from living the life you truly desire?
How to identify your particular life lesson to leap for better life?
Stay Tune to the next part of the series
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