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What did I look like when I was twenty years old? I was a young, beautiful lady but vulnerable to emotions affecting inter-relationships with others and hindering me from moving forward on my career path or getting along with others. I was not okay when someone took advantage of me, hurt me, or bullied me. Fighting and wrestling to react and the negative energy lasted long inside me. It was always brutal, final, and unproductive. I could hardly feel the happiness deep down in my heart. 1. JealousyI was jealous of others because I liked to compare myself with someone else: when my sister caught more attention than me; when my boss treated my colleagues better than me; when my friend appeared more beautiful than me; when my friends lived in a bigger house than me. My question: Why can you always get something better than me? The wrong answer: I’m not good enough. I would advise my 20-year-old self: You are jealous because you always like to compare yourself with someone else. You are a combination of strengths and limitations, like everybody else. You don’t need to do ground-breaking things to live a happy life. You don’t need to be the person to land on the moon. You don’t need to be the person to do anything. The truth is no one can win over everyone all the time. Just like a running horse, some of the time it can run very fast, some other times it would run slower. All in all, there is no comparison between the sun and the moon. They shine when it’s their time. Why if the alternate answer is: I am grateful and accept who I am and who I am not. I love myself and am satisfied with myself. 2. AngryI felt angry when my friends betrayed me, my lover abandoned me, someone hurt me out of selfishness, someone rejected me, I got fired without good reason. My question: How could I fail? The wrong answer: I won’t. I would advise my 20-year-old self: You forced your desires on what happened around you as if the world should operate according to your roadmap. When something did happen out of your expectation, you felt anger, sorrow, and self-blame. However, all lives would come to an end; All profitable fast-growing stocks would drop their price; All great machines would fail in some way. Rejecting to accept failure only made the failure more painful. You could not change anything for whatever happened yesterday. You might disagree with assumptions that led to the feelings of others that ultimately hurt you. You felt this way was not the same as others who experienced what you experienced would feel the same way. Why if the alternate answer is: I am where I should be I learned to understand that all that happens is right. Let it be and let it go. Keep calm with serenity. Inner peace is more important than justification. 3. GreedyI used to play the zero-sum game as if adopting a scarcity model for pizza. If I shared it with you, I would have less. My self-limiting beliefs made me fear someone would take away what should belong to me. My question: How much is remaining for me?? The wrong answer: Share means lost. What if the alternate answer is: I deserve abundance and have plenty. I am grateful for what I own now and what I may get tomorrow. 4. PrideI used to enjoy gossiping, judging, complaining, and condemning others. It was easy to criticize them.
What is the right thing to do? Wrong answer: I know all the answers. Advice: I can be all wrong The stupid fools are arrogant to presume they know all the answers. They are preoccupied with a spirit of criticism to focus on weakness, wanting to be always right thus they have been less wrong. An intelligent person is humble and wants to learn from everyone, embracing the spirit of approval to focus on strengths. Empower others to feel good. Stay hungry, stay foolish. They can encounter opposing opinions and still function.
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