What If You Are A Tragic Romantic Person? (Part 1)

(Continue the communication series. Starting from here)

Amy is a tragic romantic woman (type four of Enneagram). 

The Story:

Amy and Vivian are close friends.

​Vivian: Where do you want to go for dinner?
Amy:  Let’s go to Jen restaurant.
Vivian:  Oh no! It is too far away. Driving there take 2 hours and almost always no parking is available.
Amy:  I find no other place that can match this place for eating steak. The origin is Italy of Jen family. The cows eat high-energy grass, the love of the Jen family, and all those natural wonders. I won’t go to another place to eat steak.
Vivian:  Then don’t eat steak. I know a place in downtown with great Sushi.
Amy:  I don’t want to eat anything tonight except steak.  It is not only the steak. This restaurant is where I met John.  Today is my birthday, and John is not with me.
Vivian:  Who is John? Your new boyfriend?
Amy:  We are together for two weeks.
Vivian:  Why is he not with you on your birthday?
Amy:  His wife is sick and needs him in hospital.
Vivian:  Are you kidding? Do you have an affair with a married man?
Amy:  We love each other and are happy together. Nothing is more important than that.
Vivian:  You have to stop this. Does his wife in the hospital relate to you?
Amy:  You don’t understand. I feel like this could work.. you know.. we’re a lot happier with each other than with anybody else.
 
And then she burst into tears.

Amy is hysterical to feel up and down out of nothing.  She falls in love with a married guy.  While most people would think it’s wrong to have an affair with a married man, she would probably ponder it doesn’t matter as long as they love each other.

​She is moody and affectionate.  One day, she saw a white paper falling to the ground, and she burst into tears as this reminded her that her white cat had passed away. 

How does she act around someone she does not like?
What is the core drive of her emotion?
How does her emotion affect the way she treats others?
What is her expectation of others?   
What is her expectation of herself? 
What is her worldview or core belief?      
What is the lesson for a breakthrough to reverse the repeated setback tendency?

Stay tuned for the next post about the tragic romantic persona.