Women-Power Dummies Guide: Forgive Others

My friend, Jenny, employed John to work in her restaurant.  John was her chef and helped her to run the business for ten years. One day, John quitted his job to open a restaurant of his own. The location of this new restaurant was near to Jenny’s café.  The recipes and menu were the same as Jenny’s restaurant, and offered a lower price. Jenny was furious, felt betrayed.  Two years later, John became bankrupt with his restaurant was being closed.  She was feeling slighted came with a sense of revenge victory. To her surprise, when she shared her story with her ex-boss (her mentor) about the misdeeds of John, he said,

“Well, that's nothing.  You know what?  Everyone would make mistakes.  You and I would also make mistakes. The ones who made a bad decision might because they are short-sighted. It might because they do such things out of convenience.  Or it might simply because they are stupid.  They would learn the lesson and become smarter next time.”

Her ex-boss was well-said.  

Accept Imperfection

When you are trying to vent your emotions to someone you are angry with, it doesn’t mean you are right. It only means to have your emotions get triggered.  Instead, a better way is to acknowledge we are imperfect. Accept other’s imperfection who embraces the same attributes (hypocrisy, selfishness, bullying) with us.  Complaining or punishing others for their imperfection can’t make things better but covering up for our blind spots and responsibilities.

What should we do otherwise?  Practice gratitude. 

Practice Gratitude

The ex-boss of Jenny is a retired billionaire who told her the thing that was responsible for him making billions of dollars, is:
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“Be thankful 1,000 times a day.”
"Be thankful for those people giving you opportunities;
Be thankful for those people giving you knowledge;
Be thankful for your friends and partners who are always be with you no matter what..."
 
Gratitude helps us to transform the focus from the wrongdoing of others to our inner joy of abundance.