What If You Are A Tragic Romantic Person? (Part 2)

(Continue from part 1)

​​If you are a tragic romantic (Enneagram of 4), what is the emotional drive for acting the way you do?

​Worldview and drive
The drive is jealousy.
They have a lot of questions in their minds and want the answers.
 
They are self-aware, sensitive, moody, and attached to emotional needs before attending to anything else.  They want to maintain certain moods to create and pursue beauty surrounding themselves.  Also, they used to express their individuality and withdraw to protect their self-image with a distinctive persona.
 
They embrace intensive feelings and intuitions without rational explanation.  But this makes them easier to connect with others with emotional attachment.

Communication Tension 

What do they want to focus on others that provoke conflicts?
 
As the drive is jealousy, they get used to chasing something they regard as beautifully romantic, something better, with tenacity. Unlike most people, there are many “why” in their minds who deliberately search for the answer.
 
Why can't you keep your promise?
Why do you suppose to work in this way and turn out to be another way?
Why do you disagree with me?
Why can’t you make the result like that?
 
Four looks picky, ridiculous, and self-centered.
Thus, they tend to drag down their mood to the level of sadness, like to make stories and ponder why people are shallow to understand their feelings. 

Stay tuned for the next post about how to deal with Four.
And if you are Four, what is the lesson for a breakthrough to reverse the repeated setback tendency?