​One day, I read a book called "When Coffee Got Cold". The story related you were able to return to the time of your choice. No matter what you did, you won't change what had happened. You started the time travel when your coffee had been poured and ended once the coffee turned cold.
 
I wonder, under this condition, who do you want to talk to before the coffee gets cold?  What is the meaning of this time travel if you couldn't change what had happened?

​Amy was in deep sorrow because her beloved mom had passed away suddenly due to a fatal accident.  She had drowned in the swamp of sadness to the verge of depression.  Father from the church solace to tell her: this would pass.  Amy thought she had lost her mom forever and her beloved mom would not be with her anymore.  How could this pass?
 
The event that had happened was indeed a reality. The fact would not change. However, the emotions that carried with the event would pass. Remember that negative emotions are not your true self. You vent your emotion is okay and it is only a state of feeling under this specific time. You don’t need to hold it tightly because the more your resist, persist. Imagine when you did undergo a typhoon swept over. You would never try to catch holding it, aren’t you? Because you know it comes and goes.
 
When the negative emotion gets passed, Amy is aware emotion is a gift sent to her from God. It comes to remind her of re-examining her expectations in life.  Very often, we presume what should happen in our roadmap with expectations.  If what we anticipate doesn’t come true, we become frustrated.  We never know the value of the moments until it becomes a memory. It’s a gift to tell herself to stay present. Look at what’s in front of her.
 
Amy understood it was not a punishment to hurt her and it was a gift to help her instead. 
 
The event couldn’t change, but your perspective towards what had happened could change.
 
I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination – Jimmy Dean
 
Ever heard the proverb as follows:
​If you can't move a mountain, build a road around it.
If that road can't drive to your destination, change to another path.

​We all want to be happy.
The question is how to be happy?
Happy to feel fantastic about ourselves;
Feel the fulfillment;
Enjoy everyday life;
Satisfy whatever is happening at present.

The contentment is probably from:
About being successful in your career;
Obtain the financial security that you don’t need to worry about job loss;
Build a great relationship with your loved one;
And surrounded by good people.
 
However, you feel stuck up midway along the journey preoccupy with:
disappointment
overwhelm
sadness
helplessness
anxiety
anger
self-blame
emptiness and lonely
fear to lose your loved one
and on and on.
 
You stumble up and down and are unable to move forward.
Ever wonder the repeated pattern blocks you to move forward to your desired destination.
You’re not alone.  We would go through this all the time, inevitably.
What are you going to do about this?
It’s so true that we cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them (quote from Albert Einstein).
 
We have to identify the problems and the root of the blockage.
By using different perspectives and tools;
Don't just change, transform.
To become the best version of yourself;
Plant and grow your happiness;
Make the complicated thing to a simple way;
And driving to your desired destination.
 
Until when that you know you have made it?
 
When you encounter the same hateful people, they can no longer trigger your emotions to feel anger or jealousy anymore.  You feel peace of mind, instead.
Until you have learned your life lesson, you will overcome the challenges and move forward.  Then the blockage will break down.
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I’m on the journey and invite you to join me to discover our rainbow. 

​Ever wonder you feel sluggish to get up early and head to a stressful job, start thinking about the boss (or all those unlovely persons) drive you crazy. 

If so, you did give away your power.  Instead, think about your world is what you make it.  It’s an opportunity to change my success.  I have an impact on this world.
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Believing that you’re in control, you’ll start to be in control.

Anything that has power over you is teaching you how to take your power back.

Have A Great Day!

Why do most people not successful?  We’re human to preoccupy with fear, self-doubt and tend to choose short-term or short-cut.  The in-between you get your work done and do your best work is the determinant of success and failure.  And we'll go through the five stages of development as follows:

We obtain the knowledge and information via media, schools, people interaction. It’s a matter of inputting the resources like a sponge.  For instances, when I decide to run my business, I should learn sales and marketing, product sourcing and production, communication, finance, warehousing, and so on.

Take action to verify what we had learned. For instances, you can’t learn to ride a bicycle by reading videos and books. Instead, you ride a real bike, step your feet on the pedals, balancing your body to move forward.

Now you understand the basic rule to make it work via success and failure. You might stumble up and down when you apply what you had learned. You get the point about what makes it work or not. Understand the cause and effect, and identify the critical part that contributes to the success.  

You find out what is working yesterday is not working today. There are blockages under different situations and conditions. You suffer failure again and again. And then spiral up the process of failures, reviews, adjustments, and breakthroughs, continuously. What you're going to do is figuring out solutions to deal with different kinds of scenarios so that you can work smoothly to settle nearly all sorts of blockages.
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Are you done? Not really.  This stage is the most dangerous to make you feel spiritual pride used to judging and criticizing others.  The world is changing every day.  You’ll never know what could happen tomorrow.

Neither success nor failure can overwhelm your emotions. Win and loss do not matter to you anymore.  Imagine you master the skill to make a great deal of money, and make a million more are simply numbers.  And one day, when you lost all your money overnight, you know you can get over it and start everything again.  Even if you can’t, it’s okay because you know you have already done your best.

No doubt easier said than done.  I’m still learning in all aspects of my life. We need to have a great deal of curiosity, courage, persistence, discipline, faith, and luck to go through all stages of development.  

Cheers and good luck!

Her mantra is quick, quick, quick.
She's moving fast forward towards everything.
She eats the meal fast.
She drinks the coffee fast.
She does the works extremely fast.
Married fast, and divorce fast.
And at the end of the day, will she die early?

What if slow living otherwise?

The world is evolving at the speed of light.  We survive in this world that is too loud, too bright, too fast, and too cruel to bear the fear of missing out.  Very often, the pursuit of speed become the mantra to live our time.  We are busy and prioritized our time to tackle the urgency for meeting the deadlines set by someone else.  Pressure comes from all sides of deadlines such as you have a bus to catch, an interview to attend, a movie to catch, or an assignment to hand in.  We are so much hard wired fearing to the painful feeling of missing out. In fact, a deadline is not equated to exit. Missing out the deadline will not cause the death. When we concentrate on speed, the process along the way is becoming murky.  We would miss out the clarity of the important things matter most to us.  Conversely, slow living is the lazy way to drive you faster when you can see clearly:

Who are the ones need you most?
What kind of person do you want to be?
What is the difference you seek to make?

Slow living is a strategy to live a happy life.

Eat to Live
Health issues during women reproductive years are intrigued with the physical and emotional commitments in the family.  We are what we eat. Sit down and take time for the meal. Mindful eating instead of going for the first food we see out of convenience and desperation.  Eat slowly and chew the food slowly,  it is not a race after all. Our body is not a machine. The components are expensive. If the component gets deteriorated, money can't buy a new one.
 
Live to Love
House is not a home. We are women good at turning the house into a home.  I couldn't agree more that the home is a creative space to make a statement of individuality for full expression of who you are.  Spend the time on creating the supportive home environment welcoming to family and friends.  Home is where the kids learn how to love and care. Wisdom begins at home, isn't it?
 
Love to Growth
Take the time to spend the enjoyable moments with our children.  The child-parent interaction has the critical impact on the child development and shaping his/her personality and worldview.  Parenting journey is always rough around the edges. There is no ideal key or right answer that can unlock the future.  When I was a child, my mom tried to do everything right to path the way for making my life happy. She was not so much successful, indeed.  When the conventional wisdom is shaping our worldview, the opposite side can help us to learn more.  Unconventionality isn’t a goal in itself, but it means looking at the world through an inquisitive lens as we did when we were a child.  It takes time and a lot of effort.