​What is my perfect day all about?
I live at this moment in consciousness where everything takes place.
Sunshine, surrounded by natural wonders
Birds, flowers, green smell,
Full English breakfast, walk a dog.
Greeting with smiling faces, relax.
Do the work I love, gossip with friends, laughing.
Dinner with family, enjoy delicious food.
Read a book, feel good with fulfillment.
Have a good night's sleep.
 
I don't need to be wealthy to enjoy this perfect day. I only need to stay present.
Give thanks and practice gratitude.
 
Why is gratitude the highest form of energy with vibration frequency?
 
Gratitude makes you humble. Why?
Gratitude has the object of your appreciation. That means you can value more about others and all those beautiful things surrounding you, not merely a narcissist.
 
Very often, we hold our big egos in tight fists. Negativity creeps out whenever we react against someone to threaten:
My money
My house
My wealth
My feeling
My love
My family
My children
My job
My relationship.
 
All about me, me, me.
 
A humble person is more likely to exhibit kindness and generosity. He is well aware that:
 
Smart people learn from everything and everyone, average people from their experiences, and stupid people already have all the answers. - Socrates.
 
Intelligent people are humble to learn from everything and everyone. Expressing gratitude can help you remain humble and gain wisdom.
 
Accept the love and feel good about yourself.

It is only one piece of the puzzle.  
Do you want to see the whole picture? 
Do you want to transform your pain into love by understanding your emotions?  Explore the secrets to mastering your destiny through the three laws of the Universe, four strategies, and five-day challenges.

​Do you fear death? 
Do you fear being sick?
Do you fear pain?

When someone is seriously ill physically, the body’s function will break down one by one and finally undergo the four fatal processes.  Buddhism uses the metaphor of the dissipation of ground, water, fire, and wind to describe these processes.
 
Dissipate the Ground (bones)
The ground represents something hard and strong. It means bones. The first stage is that the bones are fragile, causing the person to become bedridden.
 
Dissipate the water (fluid)
The water represents the fluid from the body, such as urine, saliva, and stool. The
second stage is suffering from incontinence.
 
Dissipate the fire (warmth)
The fire represents body temperature. The third stage is reducing body temperature to
become cold.
 
Dissipate the wind (breath)
The wind represents breath. The final stage is short breath.
 
It sounds like the dissipation of ground, water, fire, and wind would eventually lead to death physically. What if I do the reverse spiritually to regain the energy of the earth, water, fire, and wind for healing? From the scientific point of view, energy and mass (matter) are interchangeable; they are different forms of the same thing. Under the right conditions, energy can become mass and vice versa (the formula of E=MC2).

Reprogram the innate belief system.
Self-affirmation to embrace confidence and self-worthiness.
I’m a precious adorable lovely angel.
Always remember a bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because her trust is not on the branch but on its own wings.
Believe in yourself.

​Peace in heart.
I no longer force things
Convince myself and the others to do the right thing
What flows, flows.
What crashes, crashes.
Let it be. Let it go.
I understand all that happens is right.
Out of every situation, the good will come.
I’m peaceful, balance, and safe.

​I follow my heart wisdom.
Connect with my inner wonder children, my authentic being.
I have the blessing and power to do my passionate work never short with meaning, magic and miracle to me.
I know what is my “be-do-have”.
I believe, I can, I have, I deserve, I choose to create the value align with my dream.

There’s nothing better than a world where everybody’s trying to make each other happy
If I can lie down at night knowing in my heart that I made someone’s day just a little bit better, I know I had a good day.
I love myself and surround with good people
I love to connect and empathy is the first step.
 
When I feel some part of my body get pain, I find this magic way to relieve my pain or even recover.
Amplify the vibration of my energy frequency, connect with my higher self, and receive tenfold energy back to my body.
 
You may regard it as wistful thinking or merely a placebo effect.
Anyway, this works for me and costs me nothing to use this simple way to heal my pain.

Process

1. Practice gratitude to make you feel grateful and generate positive energy.
2. Elevate your inner tranquility to achieve the state of calmness and gentleness.
3. Connect with your higher self spiritually and reclaim your body's energy.
4. Receive the tenfold energy to heal the illness part of your body.

​It is only one piece of the puzzle.  
Do you want to see the whole picture? 
Do you want to transform your pain into love by understanding your emotions?  Explore the secrets to mastering your destiny through the three laws of the Universe, four strategies, and five-day challenges.

One day, my coworker yelled at me in an abrasive manner because I had misplaced some files, causing trouble for her and making me feel I was an idiot.  It is not uncommon that I would shake with fury if someone criticized me or blamed me.
 
I almost always feel the madness with intense emotion ensue when my boss tries to discount me.  When my boss fired me after my 5-years tenure, I felt shocked, angry, and depressed.

I couldn’t overcome emotional suffering from failure as the negative feelings of anger, shame, and resentment affected my mental and emotional well-being.
Other people may not feel the same anger triggers as me.  When I scrutinize my iceberg, I realize there are two hardcore beliefs deeply implanted in my upbringing:

1. I do not deserve
2. I am not good enough

 
During my childhood, my mom always threw a tantrum when I failed to do what she wanted me to do and used harsh words to slander me.  Even worse, she was a perfectionist who always emphasized my weakness as if I was an idiot.  I always yearned for my mom to approve of me, but she only reminded me I was not good enough.
 
I desperately desired my mom to approve of me.
I believed if I pleased my mom to follow what my mom wanted me to do, I could get the benefits and obtain what I wanted.
 
As an adult, I continued to hold onto the same belief.  I used to think that if I pleased my boss or other people in positions of authority, I would get what I wanted.  If I could gain their approval, I would receive certain benefits.
And then, I realized I made two big mistakes.

1. I give up my power over allowing others to determine my worth.
2. My intention was merely for self-benefits, selfishly.

 
The inner wounded child will crawl out whenever someone criticizes me and makes me feel like I am not good enough.  The negative emotions stay long in my mind and are never gone.  Maybe God has a plan for me by arranging so many perfectionists around me to learn the lesson.  Not until I have removed these two destructive beliefs do I claim back my power to happiness.
 
What can I do to solve my problem?
How can I eliminate destructive beliefs and develop self-confidence instead?

Opinions from others do nothing for my worthiness.
I am the only one to be responsible and create my self-worth.
Someone who approves of me or praises me will not increase my value.
Same as someone who tries to discount me can never reduce my worthiness.
I am not the opinions of other people.
I cultivate my value with self-confidence.
I feel good about myself because I know my self-worth and want nothing from anyone.

It is nice to get personal benefits.  But that is not the only meaning of my existence in this world.  The self-fulfillment is to create value for others, not merely for self-benefits.

I once met a healthy man who was 100 years old. When asked about the secret to his happiness, he revealed that he woke up every morning with the thought that who were the persons God would send for him to help?
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When my ground is to believe in my self-worth with confidence, I will no longer care what other people think about me because I want nothing from anyone.
I feel happy and proud of myself, inside out.

It is only one piece of the puzzle.  
Do you want to see the whole picture? 
Do you want to transform your pain into love by understanding your emotions?  Explore the secrets to mastering your destiny through the three laws of the Universe, four strategies, and five-day challenges.

Alice came to a fork in a road.  “Which road do I take?” she asked.
“Where do you want to go?” respond the cheshire cat.
“I don’t know”, Alice answered. “Then”, said the cat, “it doesn’t matter.”
(Alice in the Wonderland)
 
Imagine being a ship captain without knowledge of weather, sea, navigation, ship function, and control. It would be like playing the lottery, hoping to be the winner but unlikely to be you.
 
You don’t want to be that naïve captain.

What is your clarity for  direction driving to  happiness?

Financial difficulties are common and easily trigger negative emotions (like anger, anxiety, agitation, and fear).  What if you’re broke? You fear you will lose your house, your self-respect, and everything.
 
How much money can I earn? 
How big is my bank account?
 
While unemployed, I became obsessed with the stock market for quick money.  As a result, I lost plenty of money.  I was greedy, thirsted for money, and feared losing money.  My poverty mentality made me regret every decision to buy and sell the stock at the wrong price.
 
One day, I bought a stock in the stock market, and its price rose by 10%. To secure a profit, I sold all of my stock quantity. However, the stock price continued to go up crazy. My husband blamed me for my impulsive decision, and we quarreled over it. This incident was a half-glass water story that happened in real life. I wondered why I was so angry about it. After all, I didn't suffer any monetary loss but just earned less.​

Did I angry with my hubby to blame me?
Did I angry with myself to make the stupid decision?
 
When I gained less, I felt upset (due to greediness)
When I suffer lost, I was angry (due to self-blame)
 
However, how unlikely I could always pick the perfect stock, buy at the bottom cost, sell at the ceiling price, and optimize the profit. Thus, I would always be overwhelmed with fear, anxiety, and anger to play this game.​

Ever wonder if what goes around will come around? The negative energy (greed, fear, and self-blame) that goes around will come around.  I realized something was wrong.  Gambling out of fear and greed will never solve the money problem.  The starting point was to change the mindset.

And then, I realized I had to change.

Reprogram the subconscious mind from poverty mentality to abundance mentality.
​
Poverty thinking:
Opportunities are limited,
Things will never work out
Wealth is beyond my reach
even what I have now can be taken from me at any moment
 
Abundance thinking:
I deserve abundance
I am prosperous and have plenty
I am the magnet of abundance
I welcome and accept the abundance of wealth flowing into my life effortlessly, joyfully, and happily.

​Keep moving and keep learning.
Success requires persistence and repetition to master a skill.
Always remember that failure is a stepping stone to success.
What is working?
What is not working?
What can I do differently to make me do a better job next time?
Never use compare-and-contrast of this very moment to define the win or loss.
Always remember that today is not the goal.

I continue to have an interest in trading in the stock market.  But I do it differently.  The good news is I make a profit for almost every trade.

1. Always practice the abundance mentality
2. Make it simple to focus on only two or three familiar stocks (P/E, business, up and down point).
3. Buy the stock when it is moving on a downward slope.
4. When I suffer loss, regard it as a challenge, keep calm. It is a challenge to learn:

​            - Responding instead of reacting
            - Leading instead of responding

It is only one piece of the puzzle.  
Do you want to see the whole picture? 
Do you want to transform your pain into love by understanding your emotions?  Explore the secrets to mastering your destiny through the three laws of the Universe, four strategies, and five-day challenges.

Jenny quit her career to raise the kid.  She feels angry, desperate, unappreciated because she had made so much sacrifice to this family but nobody thanks her for it.  When the kid is not listening to her, she feels as though she has been rejected and disrespected.  She throws a tantrum to make the kid feels sorry for not cooperating.  Or say, 'I worked so hard and I am alone now, you guys are so ungrateful.'
 
The wrong answer: hell is other people
The better answer: Taking full responsibility for everything in my life
 
Self-talk for inner peace:

• I always have a choice
• I’m a creator of solving the problem
• I’m where I should be because everything that happens is just right.

Amy believes she gets a map to guide her son. She jumped out fast to help him solve problems.  When her grown child asks for financial help to pay for his living expenses and graduate school tuition, she helps pay for everything at all.
 
The wrong answer:  You need me
The better answer: You need grow
 
Self-talk for inner peace:

• I’m a caring supporter with a healthy boundary.
• Never expect I can change anyone. 
• Give back the responsibilities to them. No one belongs to me.

​A persecutor has a tendency to blame and criticize others when things do not work out the way they anticipated. They attempt to pinpoint problems and directing others as the primary cause of those problems.   A persecutor uses these common phrases to justify their act:

• I did not expect this from you
• I should have known better
• I should have never trusted you
• You did not do your job and now I have to suffer
• If only you would have done what I told you

 
The wrong answer: I have all the answers
The better answer: I could be all wrong.
 
Self-talk for inner peace:
What if I’m wrong?  Yes, I will.  Indeed.
Human cognition of things is incomplete and flawed, so we are inevitably easy to make mistakes.  We attempt to do all the right things.   The fact is we can’t realize what are the right things only after many wrong things had done. Respect there’s a chance the other people to work on their filers, their habits and their instincts.  A rock climber doesn’t see a steep slope the same way an elderly person does.  In fact, there are many things where right or wrong are relative, perhaps merely based on perspective.

• Forgive that the world is imperfect.
• Forgive people are imperfect.
• Forgive I’m imperfect.
• Forgive I could be all wrong. 

It is only one piece of the puzzle.  
Do you want to see the whole picture? 
Do you want to transform your pain into love by understanding your emotions?  Explore the secrets to mastering your destiny through the three laws of the Universe, four strategies, and five-day challenges.

​"Every time you find humor in a difficult situation, you win" (unknown)
​When my boss reminds me he's the master by yelling, let's see Snoopy's wisdom :)

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I remember when I was fired, jobless, with nothing to do at home, and extremely bored. It was not funny to feel stuck up, drifting nowhere. There would undoubtedly be fear that I may not find employment for a year or longer. How would I be able to pay my bills without income? A mixture of devastating feelings never short of anxiety, stress, fear, depression, and self-doubt.

Stagnant made me feel bad.
I realized that I had to keep moving by doing something, anything.
 
“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.” (~Albert Einstein)
 
I applied to work as a mystery shopper even if the pay was a penny.
And then, I took low-salary part-time jobs working three days per week in a small shop.
Good things started happening when the momentum plug-in was activated. 
 
After a year, I finally successfully got employed with a decent salary in a corporate.

​I love to jog along the serene riverside near my home.
It was a chance to spend some time every day, without any worries and concerns, doing something positive. I can hardly put into words how much I loved exercise for boosting my energy. The natural wonders, the fresh breeze, and body movement are great sources to sparkle my mind with clarity and generate many new ideas.

When I was unemployed and staying at home often led to feelings of anxiety. What did I fear?
I fear there would be no company to offer me a job anymore
I fear age discrimination
I fear my bank account might dry out
I was afraid that being unemployed for too long would make it difficult to re-enter the job market.
 
My fear caused me to make a poor decision. I speculated on the stock market for quick money.  Obviously, it was a bad idea.
 
​And then, I realized that I needed a feeling of peacefulness (to counter my fear).
I reconnected with my religion as a way to overcome my fear.
There is a power greater than me to support every step I take.
Jesus said, “Take courage! It is I. Don’t be afraid.” (Matthew 14:22-33)
Everything that happened was just right because I was where I should be.

I knew I should avoid negativity, but negative thoughts often prevailed.  By using several different methods, I found these three methods to be effective for me:

a) Power of Ho’oponopono (Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len)

All I did was repeat to myself:

I’m sorry
Please forgive me
I love you
Thank you.
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 It was so powerful to cleanse your negative energy by replacing it with forgiveness, compassion, gratitude, and love.

b) Self-Affirmation

​I found Louise Hay's teachings on self-affirmation impressive and helpful. Search "Louise Hay" on YouTube for plenty of instructional videos.

What did I do right?
What else could be better than that?
What had I learned?
  
I have written another article to explain more about these three questions.