Women Blossom Blog
Women Blossom Blog
Why do most people not successful? We’re human to preoccupy with fear, self-doubt and tend to choose short-term or short-cut. The in-between you get your work done and do your best work is the determinant of success and failure. And we'll go through the five stages of development as follows:
We obtain the knowledge and information via media, schools, people interaction. It’s a matter of inputting the resources like a sponge. For instances, when I decide to run my business, I should learn sales and marketing, product sourcing and production, communication, finance, warehousing, and so on.
Take action to verify what we had learned. For instances, you can’t learn to ride a bicycle by reading videos and books. Instead, you ride a real bike, step your feet on the pedals, balancing your body to move forward.
Now you understand the basic rule to make it work via success and failure. You might stumble up and down when you apply what you had learned. You get the point about what makes it work or not. Understand the cause and effect, and identify the critical part that contributes to the success.
You find out what is working yesterday is not working today. There are blockages under different situations and conditions. You suffer failure again and again. And then spiral up the process of failures, reviews, adjustments, and breakthroughs, continuously. What you're going to do is figuring out solutions to deal with different kinds of scenarios so that you can work smoothly to settle nearly all sorts of blockages.
Are you done? Not really. This stage is the most dangerous to make you feel spiritual pride used to judging and criticizing others. The world is changing every day. You’ll never know what could happen tomorrow.
Neither success nor failure can overwhelm your emotions. Win and loss do not matter to you anymore. Imagine you master the skill to make a great deal of money, and make a million more are simply numbers. And one day, when you lost all your money overnight, you know you can get over it and start everything again. Even if you can’t, it’s okay because you know you have already done your best.
No doubt easier said than done. I’m still learning in all aspects of my life. We need to have a great deal of curiosity, courage, persistence, discipline, faith, and luck to go through all stages of development.
Cheers and good luck!
Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier. (Mother Teresa)
A proverb said that:
If you want happiness for an hour, take a nap.
If you want happiness for a day, go fishing.
If you want happiness for a year, inherit a fortune.
If you want happiness for a life, help someone else.
Give your time to help others make you happier. Anything you can do will not only help the world, but it will also help you. You feel good about yourself embracing with a sense of purpose and feel appreciated. When someone is down or depressed, try to share with them how important they are to you. There is no better way to show mutual appreciation than to tell someone how much you care. The amount of social support received from parents, family members, and friends would mean a lot to a depressed person.
However, you cannot give what you don’t have. Gratitude is the positive energy that fulfills your heart with gratefulness. How to practice gratitude? Be thankful 100 times a day!
Be thankful for those people giving your opportunities;
Be thankful for those people giving your knowledge;
Be thankful for your friends and partners who are always be with you no matter what;
Be thankful for God’s blessing to allow you to enjoy all things that happened to you.
So that we can transform the focus from negativity to our inner joy of abundance.
Her mantra is quick, quick, quick.
She's moving fast forward towards everything.
She eats the meal fast.
She drinks the coffee fast.
She does the works extremely fast.
Married fast, and divorce fast.
And at the end of the day, will she die early?
What if slow living otherwise?
The world is evolving at the speed of light. We survive in this world that is too loud, too bright, too fast, and too cruel to bear the fear of missing out. Very often, the pursuit of speed become the mantra to live our time. We are busy and prioritized our time to tackle the urgency for meeting the deadlines set by someone else. Pressure comes from all sides of deadlines such as you have a bus to catch, an interview to attend, a movie to catch, or an assignment to hand in. We are so much hard wired fearing to the painful feeling of missing out. In fact, a deadline is not equated to exit. Missing out the deadline will not cause the death. When we concentrate on speed, the process along the way is becoming murky. We would miss out the clarity of the important things matter most to us. Conversely, slow living is the lazy way to drive you faster when you can see clearly:
Who are the ones need you most?
What kind of person do you want to be?
What is the difference you seek to make?
Slow living is a strategy to live a happy life.
Eat to Live
Health issues during women reproductive years are intrigued with the physical and emotional commitments in the family. We are what we eat. Sit down and take time for the meal. Mindful eating instead of going for the first food we see out of convenience and desperation. Eat slowly and chew the food slowly, it is not a race after all. Our body is not a machine. The components are expensive. If the component gets deteriorated, money can't buy a new one.
Live to Love
House is not a home. We are women good at turning the house into a home. I couldn't agree more that the home is a creative space to make a statement of individuality for full expression of who you are. Spend the time on creating the supportive home environment welcoming to family and friends. Home is where the kids learn how to love and care. Wisdom begins at home, isn't it?
Love to Growth
Take the time to spend the enjoyable moments with our children. The child-parent interaction has the critical impact on the child development and shaping his/her personality and worldview. Parenting journey is always rough around the edges. There is no ideal key or right answer that can unlock the future. When I was a child, my mom tried to do everything right to path the way for making my life happy. She was not so much successful, indeed. When the conventional wisdom is shaping our worldview, the opposite side can help us to learn more. Unconventionality isn’t a goal in itself, but it means looking at the world through an inquisitive lens as we did when we were a child. It takes time and a lot of effort.
Slow down a while to adjust the focus seeking the life you want to live.
What are the secrets of cooking the perfect eggs?
The first step is choosing the eggs produced by the happy chickens.
Tips to choose a good egg:
Harder shell – Younger chicken lays the smaller size eggs which are healthier
Fresher – The rougher the eggshell surface, the fresher it is.
Free range eggs get the eggier taste.
I like to consume high protein for breakfast to kick start the day. Pair protein with vegetables is the way to go:
How to cook the perfect fried eggs?
The key is heat up the non-stick skillet and the butter (or oil) until hot.
How to cook the perfect scramble eggs?
The key is adding the cream and whisking the eggs vigorously.
How to cook the perfect poached eggs?
The key is vinegar and simmering water.
How to cook the perfect boiled egg?
The key is the salt.
Are Eggs Helpful To Our Health Or Not?
Ever heard about people say that egg is related to cholesterol that causes the development of cardiovascular illness. Thanks to modern medical studies help the eggs to redress the misconception that had mistakenly discriminated them against healthy food. Saturated animal fat or cholesterol in food has nothing to do with the blood cholesterol levels to cause cardiovascular illness. It's an industrial product with saturated fat that is rich in calories without nutrition value. The processed meat (bacon, ham, and sausage) contain harmful chemical compounds associate with chronic diseases. Eggs are rich in nutrient contents and amino acids from proteins, fatty acids from fats, vitamins, and minerals. It contains the properties to protect our eyes, cleansing the body from free radicals, help with weight loss, increase muscle mass, lower blood pressure and optimize bone health.
A man said:
Do you know women are good at what, but they don’t even know it? You guess what? They’re good to lie to themselves.
When she told you this was good for both of us, she meant this was good for her only.
When she told you money was not an issue, I was pretty sure money was the main issue.
When she told you the problem was not about you, it was about you for sure.
When she told you she'd let go of this relationship, she was still in pain and hated you deeply.
Agree or Disagree?
A child asks: My mommy told me to eat more vegetables and less meat. But daddy ate more meat than vegetables. Who should I follow?
Ever wonder almost always everything is a story that is interpreted differently by different people in different moments.
What will you tell your kid when he or she asks you this similar question?
Leave yourself some time to laugh, to be silly.
Sometimes, you can’t quite understand why your life plays a joke on you, and it’s not funny.
And every time you can find some humor in a difficult situation, you win.
Live in the present moment.
Do what you love,
Eat what you like,
Silly is cool. Crying is fine.
Tell your subconscious mind that everything is okay.
Why do people like to travel? Travelling allows you to explore exotic cultures and make new friends. Yeah, make new friends. What is the topic to talk about with new friends? Food topics almost always can arouse interest for most people. It may be our innate need to satisfy curiosity, demand for something better, and a zest for life.
Kaiseki in Kyoto
It is a traditional multi-course dinner combining delicious taste, elegant tableware, with artistic food culture. The food uses the best of the seasonal ingredients apply with versatile special skills for making raw and cooked food; fried and deep-fried; barbequed and boiled. Each course is delicate, small, and high quality. The chef arranges the food being display like an aesthetic picture. Kaiseki is not only the food to eat, more like a piece of art.
A Chunk of Cheese
Kraft cheese is not good enough to satisfy your picky tongue? Try the British Cheddar cheese. Either fruity or nutty tastes are great. PARMIGIANO-REGGIANO cheese from Italy or Beaufort cheese from France are delicious indeed. Camembert is raw milk cheese that originated from Normandy. The fresh-made camembert cheese is rich in milky and sweet taste. If you feel like the blue cheese is not your taste, Stilton is one of the best. Have you ever heard about CASU MARZU cheese? It's rotten cheese that allows flies to lay eggs inside of it. The maggots are still moving when you are eating the cheese!
Obsessed with Ice Cream
Ice-cream lovers would love Hokkaido farm-fresh soft serve ice cream. The ice-cream is farm fresh with pure cream, milkier in flavor, with a smoother texture. The taste is relatively mild. I was impressed with Gelato when I traveled to Italy. . If you asked a local Italian where to buy the ice-cream, he would say: “what is ice-cream? We get Gelato only!” Gelato is soft, dense, slow-to-melt milky texture. You get a wide range of flavors to choose from, including tiramisu, limoncello (Italian lemon liqueur mainly produced in Southern Italy), bailey plus whisky, mixed with your favoring mouth-watering fresh fruits toppings. Vivoli (in Florence) had the best Gelato that I ever know, especially the one made from Italian RISO (rice), rich in rice flavor taste with fine texture.
Drinking is acceptable at all times for Londoners. You might meet a work drunk guy who is half-drunk and half-awaken walking along Thames River without caring about today is in which year?! I felt impressed to visit Scotland distilleries single malt whisky tour. The Macallan 30-Year Old single malt whisky mellowed in Sherry Oat cask is an excellent type to obtain 95 marks from ex-Michael Jackson (he was an expert on spirits, the same name with that “king of pop”). If you love whisky, perhaps you would like to drink beer also. Pour with white beer of Harvest Sun or dark beer of Midnight Sun is impressive to your taste buds. Innis & Gunn beer is remarkable from the aromas of vanilla and toffee, hints of citrus with lightly oaked.
Cold Cut Starter
I like to eat the Italian PARMA ham (prosciutto Crudo) as a starter with slices of sweet melons. Parma is the same region famous for Parmesan cheese. Is there any association between the ham and the cheese? The people feed the pigs on cheese remains which caused the pigs to become fatter and tastier. When you visit Parma, never leave the town without eating a piece of Culatello. The taste is so great that people label it as being king of cured meat. The cut used to make it is only a small section from the pig's rear leg, with the skin and bone removed. The production process is complicated that requires drying the meat for 12 months in the 500 years old humid cave.
Anyway, if you ask me what is the best food in the world? Mom's food is the best for sure.
The child would absorb all the information into their mind without filtering.
Your kids heard the words from you get soaked into their minds like water into the sponge. Words carry weights. Motherhood life is so much stress to feel something like riding a plane to go through turbulence from time to time. How to handle stress under pressure? Perhaps, there are two ways:
The feeling of imminent fear escalates with words and action. We amplify the fear of the possible negative outcome.
“Don’t you know this is the biggest event of the year? How dare you have badly stained the terrible dirt on your dress to spoil the night?”
“The examination is coming. If you fail, you’ve to change school. I demand you to practice the whole mock papers and study overtime doing it. Call in your Dad, right now!”
It is not the biggest event of the year. Some dirt on the dress would not spoil the night. Failing the exam won’t require changing school. You only feel that way and turn the worry into components of action you’re taking.
Instead, what if working on the real problem.
“The examination is coming. Would you spend more time studying so that I know you did your very best?”
The kids will gain more confidence and be calm to deal with the problem.
One day, I heard a story from a priest:
A senior devil asked a junior to guess what would be the evilest thing to deceive most people. The junior devil thought the answer might be telling people God is non-existence or the devil is non-existence. The senior devil said both answers were incorrect. The evilest thing to deceive people was to make them believe that they had plenty of time.
Well, yes, we tend to waste time as we mistakenly think that we have plenty of time. It is not uncommon having the habit in our daily life such as:
One hour daydreaming
One hour on the couch
One hour gaming
Two hours of social media browsing
Now the time is 3 pm,
Half-day had gone
What had I done?
Busy is better than bored. Time is a strange commodity. We seem to have so much of it, until the moment we have none at all. You can only spend time and can’t save it. Beware of later become never.
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